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Hello to everyone! I am seeking for some advice and after some research your forum seems really helpful.

I am a Greek Orthodox and now I live in Greece. Last year I was in the UK for studies, where I met a Muslim guy and I had a wonderful relationship with him. I tried to show him the glory of Orthodoxy and i talked to him about my faith, however it is really difficult for a person to deny what he believes so far and accept something else. He is a very good person, he truly loves me and so do I. Now that I left, I asked him to break up even if we love each other so much, because my belief is very important to me and I want to get married in the Orthodox Church. My (ex) boyfriend proposed to me but I replied that I cannot marry him because the civil marriage means nothing to me, even though I love him so much. I would like to add here that he accepts that our future kids will be raised as Christians and he doesn't want me to convert.

I confessed to my spiritual priest and he advised me to stop contacting him and move on, as he says I have nothing in common with him. Buy this is so hard for me... Even though we haven't met for 3 months, we still keep in contact and I am praying to God to give him a sign so that he realizes that the Orthodox faith is the true and only in the Church of Christ will he be saved. He is not very religious when it comes to practicing, he is actually questioning his religion and he accepts the word of the Bible, however he is still denying that Jesus is the Son of God. I want to go back to him but I wish there is hope that he enters into the true path through Christ.

This is my situation. I don't know what to do, I don't want to risk my life if I don't have a sign that he might change, as in this case our life will be really difficult. I don't want to enter into an interfaith marriage, however I love him very much and I don't want to give up on him. The only thing I can do now is keep in contact with him and also pray to God and go to the church often, so that my prayers are listened.

Please advise me what I should do.

I apologize if the thread was tiring and I am thanking you in advance.

[leacturavar]

Eleni, needless to say, it is very difficult to comment on such matters, except in the abstract, on the Internet and in a public forum.

All I would like to say is thank God you have been given the grace to put God above all other considerations. How lucky you are!

[exchpaypalgold]

I confessed to my spiritual priest and he advised me to stop contacting him and move on, as he says I have nothing in common with him. Buy this is so hard for me... Even though we haven't met for 3 months, we still keep in contact ... The only thing I can do now is keep in contact with him and also pray to God and go to the church often, so that my prayers are listened.
Please advise me what I should do.

You have submitted the question to your spiritual father, and he gave you direction - but you, in your self will have decided that you know better than he and now are living in disobedience to your spiritual father. How can God bless disobedience? This is why it is so hard for you.

What can you do? Trust God, deny yourself and obey your spiritual father. You cannot convert this young man - only God can do that. But by your disobedience, you are getting in God's way. So pray for him and cut off all contact. If God brings him back to you as an Orthodox Christian, then Glory to God! If not, God will provide for you what you need and Glory to God. Trust God, don't try to arrange things for yourself (since that can only end in tragedy), and all will be well.

Fr David Moser

[BCVB9SOc]

This muslim is probably using taqqiyah to decieve you, as is customary. Theres no such thing as soulmates but there are more fish in the sea.

[untostaronaf]

You should watch this movie. Then do as Fr. David and your spiritual father have said.

[exchpaypalgold]

Thank you all for your replies. Especially you Father David because you helped me realize that I have disobeyed my spiritual priest, which I hadn't thought before. I should talk to him about my feelings and get more help on what to do. I am in a difficult situation but I do not get discouraged because my faith is proved to be even stronger through my sin (my relationship with a non-believer). The truth is I am getting very emotional whereas in fact I know what I should do.

I have read a lot, I have watched the movie and I know all the dangers from such a situation. I know that muslims are allowed to lie when they need to protect their religion. I wish the Lord will help me get out of this.

[DoctorDulitlBest]

I wish the Lord will help me get out of this.

Well, I'm certainly not Him, but...Stop writing, stop picking up the phone, stop calling him, stop texting, stop playing music that reminds you of him, don't talk to mutual friends about one another. In short; cut it off. Its not that hard. Trust me. Women did it to me all the time growing up. Just stop.

As my mother said, if you want to find a "nice" girl, go to where the nice girls are. Church; not the bars.


Paul

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Eleni,

The Lord does indeed help us. Feelings of strong attraction toward someone are not love as you recognize. How could love cause us to want to disobey God? St Paul says not to be yoked together with unbelievers (II Cor 6:14) and St Peter says that wives are a witness by their obedient life. What kind of witness to Christ can we have if the relationship is continued on disobedience and compromise? How then will we draw someone else to the faith? Muslim men in particular respect strength, and he is far more likely to respect your God if he sees that by Christ's grace you have the strength to live in obedience to God over obedience to your feelings. Real love for this man is to obey God -- and then you will have left a significant witness behind that may in time bear fruit. But if you keep compromising, you water down this witness.