[BloofPailafum]

I know your not stupid either.

You sure you've came to the right forum?

[Lymneterfeiff]

You sure you've came to the right forum?

Its never the wrong forum when its your friends. Im a fellow nerd n need of my nerdy friends.

[constanyiskancho]

Best of luck to you man, but as its been said, to them it is just their mother. You'll always be their father.

[JacksHH]

If your boys are a smart as you think they are, they'll see right through any BS she may try.

[Lymneterfeiff]

If your bois are a smart as you think they are, they'll see right through any BS she may try.

Once they got home and sat up all night thinking about what was about to happen.... my 12 yr old who has never entered a room without knocking... came right in my room and woke me n the wife up at 445 am to tell us he was wrong and would never move away and OMG i was so relieved. he said she always tells him he doesnt love her because he doesnt live with her and he just wanted to make her happy. So i did what another onion here said and got them set to spend the summer with her and they said no longer than a month. I dont know what she did or said to those boys that had them thinking they had to move in with her. she must just really throw them the sob story every dam time she sees em. i hate they have to live with that immaturity.

[Lymneterfeiff]

I know this post isnt related to anything about gaming or benching but this website is my homepage. i am checking this webpage at least every 20 min even on my cell phone. Ive had arguments with peeps in here n even gotten bad warnings from the mods one time. If theres a website that a person could say makes em feel like home than this is it for me. ty guys for your thoughts and your wisdom. I wish you all the best.



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[Beauseaccerce]

I'd be pissed if some bitch stole my L4D friends too.

[Kayakeenemeds]

Once they got home and sat up all night thinking about what was about to happen.... my 12 yr old who has never entered a room without knocking... came right in my room and woke me n the wife up at 445 am to tell us he was wrong and would never move away and OMG i was so relieved. he said she always tells him he doesnt love her because he doesnt live with her and he just wanted to make her happy. So i did what another onion here said and got them set to spend the summer with her and they said no longer than a month. I dont know what she did or said to those boys that had them thinking they had to move in with her. she must just really throw them the sob story every dam time she sees em. i hate they have to live with that immaturity.

This is a difficult situation, it does sound like their mother is pulling on the heart strings and using emotional blackmail to manipulate your kids, it sounds like they have good heads on their shoulders though, especially the 12yr old, it would be him that is the key to this too, if he decides to stay i think the younger one would probably follow suit.

Here's my advice, stay on top of things, don't start taking pills or drinking, that's the absolute worst thing you could do, the best thing you could do is talk to them, you'd be surprised at how they'll suddenly seem very grown up when talking about these things, make sure you find out what they want and why they want it, if they repeatedly talk about what their mom wants then she has obviously been planting these ideas in their heads, although they would have been curious anyway and would see it as a big adventure, but either way, support them in what they want to do, you may have to press them to find out exactly, but make sure they know that you love them wherever they are, that you know they love you wherever they are and that of course you'll miss them too when they aren't there.

To me it sounds like they only wanted to move because they thought they was hurting their mom, some mothers are only interested in their children when they get older, the hardest part in raising them is over and done with and they just think about the extra money they'll get by having more kids in the house, kids now old enough to basically look after themselves, to a certain degree. Whatever you do though, don't go putting down their mother in front of them, it's difficult i know, but only agree with whatever criticisms they make, don't go off on a rage about her mistreating them, even though that is what she is doing, the one thing to make sure they understand is that it's not fair of her to make them feel bad that way and pressure them into doing something they ultimately don't want to do, tell them that you'd support them either way and if they need want you to talk to their mom and tell her they don't want to move, then you will, or that if they want you to be there when they tell their mom they want to stay with you, then that's fine too, but make sure they know you will be there for them no matter what.

The other advice in this thread is sound, let them stay over the holidays, as a tester period, make sure they only take essentials from your house, don't allow their home at your house to be dismantled, their bedrooms for example should stay their bedrooms with everything in it just how they always have it, you could perhaps let them take their computers, which would allow you to carry on playing your games together online, arrange a couple of hours on an evening to meet up online and talk on voip, you could even consider getting them their own mobile phones to call you and keep them topped up for them so they can call you whenever they wish, tell them that even though they are staying with their mom over the summer that doesn't mean they can't see you whenever they like during that time too.

It's a complicated matter, but i wish you the best of luck, stay strong, support your kids and most importantly, talk to them, talk, talk and then talk some more, make sure you know what they feel, now is the time they need you to be a Dad and not so much their friend.

[chelviweeme]

From what age? I mean I take it you aren't 12 right now. I only ask because we had a friend when we were about 18. I remember going over to his place we thought it was cool because he used first name to refer to his dad, his dad was a dope dealer and they were friends. So one of us said to him it must be cool having a dad like that and he said no not really I have plenty of friends, it's easy to make friends what I would have liked was a dad.

My relationship is like a close big brother or very close best friend. I always called my dad by his first name and we always had fun and chilled. But he would become very serious/straighten me out when I would screw up or when it was appropriate. They gave me a lot of freedom and when I would abuse it they would stiffen up for a short while. They let me develop by my self but would step in when I would get mixed up with something bad/with bad people.