[Azzi_Kahlila]

I hope there is somebody than can help to figure out this ... First; is the way of engagement the same in Thailand as in other western countrys like Norway and the US? That you engage and should marry after a year..
And when it comes to marrige, how is it when a foreign girl marries a thai boy? Does he pay -sin sod- to the girls family or does that only matter to a thai girl? And if he have to pay, who should decide the amount of money he have yo pay?

[sessoorale]

I hope there is somebody than can help to figure out this ... First; is the way of engagement the same in Thailand as in other western countrys like Norway and the US? That you engage and should marry after a year..
And when it comes to marrige, how is it when a foreign girl marries a thai boy? Does he pay -sin sod- to the girls family or does that only matter to a thai girl? And if he have to pay, who should decide the amount of money he have yo pay?

Never heard of engagements among Thai in Thailand....

Regarding about the sin sot thing, I've asked a western lady who married a Thai man before and no she didn't receive any sin-sot. And if you are to suggest as Western tradition goes, the lady is to pay for the wedding, you're welcome to do so too.

[DownloadMan]

I do not think that engagements are a long term thing here, marry when ever is convenient.

And I see no reason that he shouldn't pay her parents sin sod, he would have to pay it if he were marrying a Thai and it seems that they require it when a farang marries a Thai, They do not seem to cut any slack on different cultures.

The girl and her mother are usually the ones to set the sin sod.

Kinda separates the men from the boys I would say.

[Soassesaisp]

The engagement ceremony is held on the morning of the actual wedding.

The man's elder has to speak on his behalf and ask the woman's permission for marriage. The dowry is also inspected for acceptance.

But as Bucky kinda said, there are no engagaments in Thailand - Western style.

However, a lot of Thais who marry foreigners like the long engagament bit too. An exchange of traditions.

Most foreigners who marry girls from the rural area are asked to pay a dowry which is not returned. So, some foreigners here can argue that its ....only fair!

[sessoorale]

Most foreigners who marry girls from the rural area are asked to pay a dowry which is not returned. So, some foreigners here can argue that its ....only fair!

The only thing fair in Thailand is written in Thai and is understood by Thai only.
I'll love to see any Western lady who married Thai coming out to comment about the sin-sot thing.

[Peretool]

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Most foreigners who marry girls from the rural area are asked to pay a dowry which is not returned. So, some foreigners here can argue that its ....only fair!

I am quick to tell farangs who have Thai girlfriends that they should look at sin-sot as a part of the package. It goes with marrying a Thai girl. That way they learn to accept it early in the game and they do not anymore entertain funny ideas on how to escape from it.

[Azzi_Kahlila]

Thank you all for good and informative answers!

[Caursedus]

From my experience, Thai's only use traditions with westerner's when it suits them selves, a kind of double standard. It is highly unlikely they would pay sin-sod to a western woman, I would suggest any western woman not pay for the wedding. Instead scrap all Thai and western tradition and just go half each, It is mush simpler that way.
I personally would not pay sin-sod as a man, as a principal of respect to my own tradition, if the woman does not except me with out money, then she can find some one else, because I don't want her.

[DownloadMan]

That might be alright for you, but what about all the women that you are leaving broken hearted??