[Unergerah]

hey guys me and my gf are having our first baby and im pretty excited. the baby is due on June 8th and we cant wait. we will find out the sex of the baby in another 3 weeks. ill be happy with ether gender as long as the baby is healthy

so im just wondering if any of you parents out there have any good advice in regards to parenting?
i figure every bit of advice is worth something and cant hurt.

also some help with names would be cool too. we are looking for something that's somewhat unique and uncommon but is still nice.

thanks guys

[diutuartina]

Well I for one would feed the baby occasionally

but that's just me!

[arindiruppyr]

Yes, find your own way... it'll be hard, you'll make mistakes, but it'll be the most rewarding thing in your life.

Congratulations!

[Obsententicab]

Big congratulations! I'm single and with no child, so I can't help all that much I guess!

[rofl]

[cestsennY]

be consistent as parents, do not contradict each other...set rules, boundaries and limitations and follow through...oh, and my fourth is due end of march early april...7,9,12 are the current three.

edit: im thinking maybe tristan for a boy and anna-maria for a girl.

[LarpBulaBus]

My advice is to not ask the people here or anyone online, for that matter. Ask people you know that have kids and seem to do a good job at it...you know, the really close ones that you know with 99.9999% certainty that they aren't abusing their kids.

[diutuartina]

be consistent as parents, do not contradict each other...set rules, boundaries and limitations and follow through...oh, and my fourth is due end of march early april...7,9,12 are the current three.

edit: im thinking maybe tristan for a boy and anna-maria for a girl.

Might I recommend the name Deckard Cain if its a boy!?

[WournGona]

I was just thinking that this thread topic goes perfectly with your username. Anyway, I am a dad as of 9 months ago, and I can say it's the coolest thing you will ever do. Better than any job or anything.

My advice is get some friends with kids that can be your go to people. I have some friends like that and it's invaluable!

[Nubtoubrem]

Im just 18 and I dont know much about babies but keep it healthy as said is a good one. Also, keep your jobs because we are damn expensve!

[fapourfasiark]

So, was it an unexpected error ? Anyway, don't ask such important advice on the internet.

[diutuartina]

So, was it an unexpected error ? Anyway, don't ask such important advice on the internet.

blinddonkey beat you to the joke

[expomeHattePe]

Be a parent, not their friend.

This is more important when the kid is into teenage years. (Trust me, I know)

There is a world of difference in the two and sometimes you will have to make decisions that will piss your kid off big time but they will thank you in the end( trust me I know this to [thumbup] )

[patuvammnogoo]

Me too! Ours is due on 25th May.

I certainly won't be asking people on FM for advice, however. No offence!

[WournGona]

Here's some priceless advice. Don't buy a lot of stuff. Don't buy all the cute clothes, the expensive crib, the fancy changing table, the bottle or wipe warmer, the fancy stroller and car seat system.

My daughter outgrows everything in weeks. There is no point spending all your money on things you don't need. You are going to need that money later. Borrow clothes from friends/relatives. Borrow anything you can. But don't buy or borrow certain things like cribs or car seats second hand, because car seats expire actually.

People bought my daughter fancy dresses and clothes and shoes and all kinds of crap, but she grows too fast some of it she never wears. You can get onesies and sleep and plays and clothes from mom to mom sales, for a dollar or two.

Also, your insurance may not cover all of your childs first years immunizations, if that's the case you can get discounted or free shots from a health clinic.

We bought our crib from Ikea for like $130, and got a $40 changing table. We also borrowed a bassinet and other things which we would only need for a month or so after she was born. Your kid is only going to use the crib and these other things for a couple years at the most, and this crib converts into a childs bed. So, some of my friends spend thousands on crib sets with dressers and fancy furniture, which is a waste IMHO.

We also use Target brand formula. Saves a ton of money. Costco has good deals too, but I don't know if you live in the states or not?

[XIMHOTEP-X]

DINGO ATE CHA BABY

[orillaVar]

Be a parent, not their friend.

This is more important when the kid is into teenage years. (Trust me, I know)

There is a world of difference in the two and sometimes you will have to make decisions that will piss your kid off big time but they will thank you in the end( trust me I know this to [thumbup] )

Which means setting boundries and rules as well not giving in every demand from the start because its a lot harder to gain control back once you lost it.


For proof watch any Nanny show on TV, its sad that too much that is happening today can be explained by failed parents.

[Speareerfug]

Which means setting boundries and rules as well not giving in every demand from the start because its a lot harder to gain control back once you lost it.


For proof watch any Nanny show on TV, its sad that too much that is happening today can be explained by failed parents.

It's not the parents' fault. Kids today just have chemical imbalances.

[arcalmanard]

It's not the parents' fault. Kids today just have chemical imbalances.

Its not the kid's fault, its the media, their dead mother, video games, public school, society, or in some cases its the result of alien anal probing.

[NerbuitW]

I have to agree with blinddonkey here,
Borrowing kids clothes or purchasing them second hand (especially in the first years) is a good way to save money and my Son also outgrows stuff so damn fast.
Another tip from me would be don´t spoil him/her.
You don´t want a wannabe Paris Hilton in a few years.

Ohh and Don´t worry, things often seem harder and complicated then they really are.

[WournGona]

Plus second hand purchasing reduces waste, and helps out other parents who can use some bucks. Borrowing also gets rid of clutter in other peoples houses.

We bought all gender neutral stuff so we can reuse it for our next kids. We didn't know the sex of our baby either. So, we made people give us gender neutral clothes if they were giving us something, but once they find out the sex, get ready for blue boys clothes and pink girls clothes.

You could look into cloth diapers. They are very fancy now. That could reduce waste quite a bit. I have two friends that use them. We don't, it didn't work out for us.