Is there an explanation for my grudge?
 

... or just decide that some bartenders are either morons or *******s and let it be?

Jesus, just let it go

I know how you feel. I obsess sometimes too. Some people tell me that the best way not to obsess is not to start. Once you start obsessing it can play on itself. You feed your own obsession.

For me though I just can't turn it off. So I just deal with it. It gets better for me after a little while. Maybe if you just stopped trying to spot obsessing and just live with it you will start thinking about it less.

Yes, there probably is.

I, on the other hand, never hold a grudge. Whenever I get angry at some dude, I just think of the fact that I have a much larger penis than he has, and feel sorry for him instead http://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...milies/nod.gif

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Don't make mountains out of mole hills.

I don't shout at people either, even when I'm upset. Maybe thats why you cant let it go, you regret your behavior too...

Winston, were you born in Texas and then moved?

apostate

Pekka is mad at the guy because his rude behavior induced a bad public reaction from Pekka... Forgiving yourself is harder than forgiving others sometimes.

Originally posted by SlowwHand
Not moved as in willingly. Obviously someone would have to have moved him. OMG teh Commies!

Its nothing more than the way the brain works. Random incidents do sometimes pop into your head for no good reason.

Happily, in this context, memory will change for you over time. At the moment you are young enough so that your memory is not very full. As the number of things stored in the memory expands it will behave a little differently.

You could just take your custom elsewhere, yes?

Originally posted by Pekka
Oh I'm not upset about how I behaved, even though it was out of the ordinary. On the contrary, I regret that I did't stab her in the face. You regret obsessing about it though, right. That's your behavior you want to change.

Originally posted by Pekka
Kid, yeah. Because it wouldn't be a problem if I didn't think about it, and there's nothing to think about it because it's not a big deal. But if rationalizing the situation doesn't make it any better, then the problem is somewhere else. Not thinking about it might not be possible. That means you don't have control over it, that you are powerless. Feeling powerless over something doesn't help either. But if you can't stop thinking about the incident maybe you can not get down on yourself for being powerless over it. Just accept it, and then your feelings of powerlessness won't feed into your obsession.

Lori, Dude, that's the first I've heard, I mean gay brothers. Not of course for each other but just in general. WE MUST LOOK AT YOUR GENES, IT MIGHT BE PROVEN TO BE A SICKNESS! http://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...ilies/wink.gif

I thought you were gay? Ok, I guess not.

Lori, that's probably it.

So we went from gay brothers to non-gay brothers. Meh, boring.

Don't call him Lori

LordShiva, not only do I call him Lori, but did you know that lori is a short version of lorilori, that is described as the sound of pissing in my language? It could also be Liri, but Lori is just as good, they're interchangeable.

But I do not think about pissing when I say Lorizael's name as Lori so that's not it. But a little bit of new information so you'll learn something today. God bless me.

Besides, you should have once again provided some information to your brother's boyfriend and say that in Finland they make absolutely no distinction between the sexes in language like that, there's no he/she, so in fact you can't usually make up the sex of the writer or the sex of someone else, because it's not important. In fact I found it kind of weird at first and I still sometimes mix up he and she, I mean mix them up if I write fast because I don't pay attention. I'm just pointing to a person so I always have to switch to your english language sexist mode to do that. So it's not necessarily "the norm". Think about it. It's not the norm. It's an alternative, not what we have to deal with.

Anyway, that BF sounds like a POS slut.