[Pataacculakp]

Everything I read about dealing with being cheated on talks about working on ME. Well, we all know that's a lot easier said than done in those first awful weeks or months. I'm ready to do it now and I've decided to make a list of things to do every day for me. So far I have:

Take my vitamins
Read at least 30 minutes
Write in my journal at least 10 minutes
Spend 15 minutes of quiet time just reflecting on things, good and bad.
Work out at least 4 times a week
Save an extra $100 a week

What are some other things that the members here have done for themselves? Did it help get past some of the pain and anger?

[bashansasasasa]

Mini weekend get away spent holed up in an INN. Getting room service, reading and spa treatments. I did this a few times and as recently as last weekend!

massage

hair styled

walks

5 day vacation with my best friend.

Also, like you: journalled and started to exercise.

I think it's important to act kindly on yourself.

[thomaskkk]

Enrolled in school. Closing in on two degrees and a minor...with honors.

[ArrichMer]

Lost 40 pounds--wearing a size 8

Bought expensive skin care products and start using them!!

manicures

massage once a week during the really rough times...as often as I can afford them

long tub baths

....I missed the touch of others so anything that was pampering was very helpful...
SIS

[ArrichMer]

The hardest part for me was focusing on myself though-- I honestly had not done that for 30 years. I didn't know what I enjoyed or what to do if I wasn't doing something for someone else.

So, I decided that I would try one new thing a week--once I took an introductory class to scuba diving in the pool--not for me. Oh, and I discovered that the church single groups offer a lot of no-cost options too...that was really important with money so tight.

But each week I would try something and hoping that I would find something to be passionate about. I met a great guy during my "dance class week".
I really liked dance classes

[Pataacculakp]

I love ready all of these ideas, thanks so much!! The massage sounds great as do the weekend getaways.

I forgot to add that I started getting the sculptured french manicure right after I found out, and next weekend I finally start my horseback riding lessons!

It's just so hard to do anything for me when my mind was so consumed with him. I'm back to me know, and more than before actually.

Please keep the ideas coming. Maybe others will also get some use out of them!

[thomaskkk]

Rock climbing is my new passion.....love it!

[Pataacculakp]

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[Plaumpholavup]

Kudos to you for taking life into your own hands and treating yourself well!! Your list sounds lovely and encouraging. Thanks for spreading happy words.

[Sakkola]

I've caught up on some bestsellers! With 4 kids, I literally lock myself in one of the bathrooms with a pillow and my new book. He can deal with dinner and homework and basketball practive and tennis practice. I'm busy with my new man James Patterson!

Also, second week in, I got a complete makeover. Took some of the money we were saving for him to get a new Harley motorcycle, went to the most expensive salon in the area and redid myelf. (It kind of backfired because he really likes my new hair!)

I am also buying myself new summer clothes and swimsuit (for my new figure) instead of waiting until the kids are all outfitted first.

Love being a little selfish!!!

[annouhMus]

Badcaby.............


May the fleas of a thousand reindeer nest in your genitals.

[thomaskkk]

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Before having confirmation of CH and needing a surgery for 5 breast lumps removal, I decided to take advantage and did 2 things: first I got a boob job done at the same time. So instead of dealing with 5 scars, now I am recovering with only 2 scars and great looking Boobs! ( The Obgyn made the removal of lumps and the Plastic Surgeon the pretty reconstruction). The second thing: upper eye lid surgery ...
My CH had to pay the Bill... HA HA

Now as part of healing and recovering I am going out on walks... And I think that besides helping me get stronger physically, I get to listen to new music on ipod- I am begining to catch on my kids new technology.

New thing to do: following some of your ideas, instead of crying around the house, I am going to find a massage place or get a pedi/ mani each week

[annouhMus]

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[annouhMus]

To quote Samuel L. Jackson:


English mother****er!!! DO YOU SPEAK IT?!?!?!

[MasdMnPa]

After being in a bad dysfunctional family, and broken relationship, constantly reminded that being a screwup, being told that graduating high school won't do this, or do that. I pretty much was shut out. It has taken my brother in law and my sister to break the silence I was constantly shielded by.

Chains of being bound by my mom was broken so I can move around freely. Now I can think clearly as a man. I have been a great man of the house. Now since my girlfriend and the landlord manager changed the lease, I feel like nothing. Now my girlfriend is realizing listening to me the man of the house has rewards.

The consequences of meddling with lease has financial consequences. She is seeing this due to the fact I hardly post in this site. I am constantly being threatened to be evicted if I do not do this or that. Maybe you can help me out here. I am trying to get a clear head.


Other than that, I have chosen a gas guzzler pickup for a replacement vehicle I have lost due to a wreck in 2010. I am trying to pick up the pieces and go on without being fully perfect.



Texas Tomcat

[TughEmotteTug]

• I've gotten on meetup.com to pursue my interests in French language/culture with real people.

• Resumed cake decorating as one of my favorite hobbies and arts.

• Made time for sketching and journaling/poetry writing.

• Enjoyed a nice at-home foot bath and pedicure.

• Keeping physically active to get out of the house, enjoy nature, and stay well.