A simple question with a hard answer . . . .
 

Should you let go of your past?

Should you never speak to ex's again, should you throw away / sell old things that have no purpose etc.

Thoughts?

hard question, easy answer

Yes

The correct answer isn't to let go of your past but to accept it and recognize for it what it was without holding burdens from it. Learn from it but do not necessarily let it determine who you are now.

You speak to ex's only if you can recognize the feelings which may arise and be at terms with them.

Most people can't do this and usually associate certain reactions and feelings with the person and thus still dwell on what it was. Thus, it is usually healther for them to stop contact with them but that doesn't mean the internal feelings about them are removed, it just means the trigger for them has disappeared.

Anyways, the answer can be much more complex.

You are far wiser than i would have imagined young padewan,

He watches Dr Phil

Oh man that guy is such a charlatan, why the hell is he even on TV still...I thought it was proven he was a fake.

Learn from your mistakes, but don't live by your past.

The past is over and can't matter any more. Living in the past will ruin you.

One MUST live for the future!

Wow! I never realised you could be so "deep". [shocked]

I totally agree though! [thumbup]

Its never too Good to dwell on the past too much, but really its what's happened in the past that defines who you are in the future, and maybe defines how you deal with similar circumstances that you may experience in the future, i.e. learn from your past mistakes.

I'm Friends with 3 of my past 5 ex's, we talk now and again on msn and fb, The only reason I'm not on speaking terms with the other 2 is that it ended badly between us, 1 of those includes my ex-wife.

As for selling/throwing away old things, then if they remind you of what you "lost" in a past relationship, then maybe its time you moved on and did sell/throw them away, But if your reminded of your past and can deal with the reminiscing without feeling sad, then keep them, by all means.

I've got photo's, rings, trinkets from my old ex's, I keep them to keep the memories Fresh, Losing them, would be like losing a part of myself.

I don't feel sad when I look at them, I feel Joy at looking at them and not feeling anything, anymore, Because to me that says, I've moved on.

Some very good answers there.

Funny thing I'm meeting my ex in a few hours. http://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...s/excited1.gif[surrender][beta]http://www.discussworldissues.com/fo...ies/laugh1.gif

A man without regrets is one who has not learned from his mistakes.

I never speak to ex's again in general, as perfectly normal and sane women somehow transform into total psycho b**ches when they become your ex. For whatever reasons.

Sadly, mine seem to get better once we're apart [dots]

I say don't live in the past, it's ok to remember stuff but don't have regrets for bad decisions, and I think it's ok to speak to your ex's unless you still have feelings for them.