[Anckzxik]

My daughter said something to me yesterday that really has me thinking, and I'd like input from you.
I was talking about acceptance and she said, "The meaning of accept is to "take as normal.""
So it's got me thinking about what we accept, and how that has changed, IF that has changed.
My new "normal" is keeping an eye on him, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Is this a normal I want?
Like I said, it's got me thinking. Your input please.

[elossenen]

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[DoctoBuntonTen]

I have a new normal. I use to be the kind of guy who just jokes around all the time...alway laughing or smiling. I was also the kind of husband that if my wife was at the sink or something...I'd sneak up behind her and just squeeze her and suck on her neck and nibble on her earlobes.

Now?...I rarely joke around...I'm serious and all business.
And the overwhelming affection I gave my wife is pretty much gone. She doesn't deserve it.

[AnriXuinriZ]

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[AliceFromHouston]

My new normal was not sleeping. Not eating. Couldn't concentrate on anything. Got dizzy in the grocery store and thought WTF!! So I slapped myself upside the head and got myself back to the normal I've always lived.. minus him. Kinda sad after all our years together...but hey, I can live with that.

[Evelinessa]

acceptance:

Definition:

1. agreement to invitation or offer: a written or verbal indication that somebody agrees to an invitation or offer


2. act of willingly taking gift: the willing receipt of a gift or payment


3. willingness to believe: willingness to believe that something is true


4. coming to terms with something: the realization of a fact or truth and the process of coming to terms with it


5. toleration: the toleration of something without protest


6. social tolerance: willingness to treat somebody as a member of a group or social circle


7. positive response to application: an offer to allow somebody to join an organization or attend an institution

For me I could not handle the day to day thought of always having to keep my eye on him because no matter what you cannot 24/7 always be able to be in the know of their activities. So I could not tolerate it and I could not come to terms with the numerous cheating and with all his lies and I could not willingly believe anymore. By reading some of your posts and how you have to constantly watch over their every move and how their cheating has changed you I know I made the right choice. It is sad to see how people who were fun and humorous and enjoyed their lives are now more cynical and untrusting and I wish the people who cheated could feel the pain of what their actions have done even if for just a short time so they know what they are feeling. Right now I have to deal with trust issues I have which I find hard enough to deal with and I am happy I no longer have to deal with everything else on top of it. I hope one day all of you can once again the people you started off as as I find the situation you now have to live unfair.

[JonatonM]

My new normal is a lit like tijaco. Not sleeping(2 hrs a nite), not eating( I lost 12 lbs in 2wks) not the life of the party anymore. At first I drank a lot! Then I realized that was taking me away from my children. They're already going to have so much to deal with, I didn't want them to deal with a lush for a mother. I'm still looking for the new normal. I pray a lot just to get through the days. Especially since I know he is seeing her at work everyday and most nights. I still haven't told anyone. I'm ashamed, and I know I shouldn't be. I didn't cheat. When you find your new normal, let me know so I know which way to go.