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**iiilizium** · 02-23-2009, 06:32 AM

My own experience in college was that very few students (home schooled or not, religious or not) were prepared to deal with the chaos of dorm life.

This is the answer of answers here as we might attempt to compare the "maturity" level of these 18 and 19 year old kids, especially when you want to throw sending them away to college into the mix.

We can consider my experience or Fr. Dcn's. or whoever's experience as it relates to the maturity level of kids when they become freshmen . . . but it really doesn't matter, I think, because who would disagree with DW's statement above?

Because, when I say that it has been my experience that most homeschool children are definitely more mature than those brought up in public school, I would also say that NEITHER homeschooled NOR public schooled kids are mature enough to leave home at 18-19 years of age as it relates to either dorm life or any other kind of life.

These kids are not adults, almost all of them are ill-prepared and immature as it pertains to being turned loose in the world (the crazy world of college life away from home, or the real world in an apartment or whatever).

And, now I will risk sounding out of it here a little bit, but I feel strongly that in many cases when a family sends their child away to college (especially the one's that are well known to be 'party colleges'), then that family has just thrown their child to wolves. But, now we have moved into the area of child rearing, but how is this not included in the "training up of a child?"

That is what we are talking about here the training of a child. Right?

As much as we want our kids to be smart, strong, independent and able to make the right decision for themselves when they are 18-19 . . . most kids regardless of where they received their education are too immature to be sent away to dorm life.

Now I'm feeling like I'm starting to sound like some sort of legalist or fundy here, and I know there are most definitely exceptions to what I'm saying, but I think overall this is the rule.

Did he just say, that in many cases when a family sends their son or daughter away to dorm life in a college they have just thrown their child to the wolves? Yes, I think he did!

Where did that foxhole shovel get to now?

02-23-2009, 06:32 AM	#33
iiilizium Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 321 Senior Member	My own experience in college was that very few students (home schooled or not, religious or not) were prepared to deal with the chaos of dorm life. This is the answer of answers here as we might attempt to compare the "maturity" level of these 18 and 19 year old kids, especially when you want to throw sending them away to college into the mix. We can consider my experience or Fr. Dcn's. or whoever's experience as it relates to the maturity level of kids when they become freshmen . . . but it really doesn't matter, I think, because who would disagree with DW's statement above? Because, when I say that it has been my experience that most homeschool children are definitely more mature than those brought up in public school, I would also say that NEITHER homeschooled NOR public schooled kids are mature enough to leave home at 18-19 years of age as it relates to either dorm life or any other kind of life. These kids are not adults, almost all of them are ill-prepared and immature as it pertains to being turned loose in the world (the crazy world of college life away from home, or the real world in an apartment or whatever). And, now I will risk sounding out of it here a little bit, but I feel strongly that in many cases when a family sends their child away to college (especially the one's that are well known to be 'party colleges'), then that family has just thrown their child to wolves. But, now we have moved into the area of child rearing, but how is this not included in the "training up of a child?" That is what we are talking about here the training of a child. Right? As much as we want our kids to be smart, strong, independent and able to make the right decision for themselves when they are 18-19 . . . most kids regardless of where they received their education are too immature to be sent away to dorm life. Now I'm feeling like I'm starting to sound like some sort of legalist or fundy here, and I know there are most definitely exceptions to what I'm saying, but I think overall this is the rule. Did he just say, that in many cases when a family sends their son or daughter away to dorm life in a college they have just thrown their child to the wolves? Yes, I think he did! Where did that foxhole shovel get to now?
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