Actually, I think in the whole process, the kid might have been the only one that clued in. She is a REALLY smart little cookie and although she struggled when I kind of picked her up, she didn't go back to doing it which made me feel a little better. Hopefully it will stick with her. Her dad is actually much more like me. He makes a real effort to correct her behaviour but he is quite soft spoken and often gets told to let her be when trying to teach her how to behave. I hope he manages to find his voice towards his wife as I see alot of her bullying behaviour being ignored or laughed at by her mum. It makes me sad for her as she is such a little cutie but she will be the one with life challenges when she grows up because she wasn't taught respect or more accurately, isn't getting consistency between what her dad is trying to do and what her mum lets her get away with which has to be confusing for her and really only adds to her acting up. She's going to be a handful if they don't get on the same page.