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Go, then, and when your friends and relations ask why she isn't there, simply tell them she's shy and felt she'd be overwhelmed by the whole thing. That way they should be understanding and perhaps they'll meet her during the next year and she'll be relaxed enough to go to the next one with you. Heck, what does she think'll happen at the wedding, if that's the first time they all meet her - judgements'll certainly be made there under much more stressful conditions.