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**JohnfAclambrJA** · 12-22-2011, 11:09 PM

Allah swt grant you and your family afiyat.

The first thing to accept brother is that this is going to be a struggle for you but a very rewarding one once you see the fruits of your efforts. It will require much duas, observing tahajud, charity and most of all PATIENCE. InshaAllah at the same time seek guidance from Ulema through mashwera.

With regards to effort on family, Taleem at home is an amazing tool i.e. reading from fadhail e amal. Whether your sister or mother etc participate or not, make it your goal to observe it daily at home and a need for yourself. If your sister is away from practices of deen, a heavy hand and order like approach will not do much but cause her to rebel further. You need to instill the love of Allah, Nabi saw, the sahabh and the deen into their lives. You have to lead the way forward and lead by example.

Brothers have always given me two examples pertinent to the effort on families:

1) When Nabi saw made the call to deen, who was the first to insult and rebel against him? His uncle Abu Lahab. Who were at the forefront against opposing Nabi saw? his Uncle- Abu Jahal. We see that in the struggle to do dawah, the biggest obstacle could be the very ones we love dearly i.e. our family and could be the means of doing our own tarbiyah.

2) Secondly, as you call towards deen, your sister will surely check you for weaknesses. Like when we cook meat or chicken, you cut it a bit to see if its cooked properly. In same way our family members will test if where for real or still "raw". This will require patience from you and once they see changes in you, changes for the better, THIS will be what will entice her towards deen inshaAllah.

On a side note, it is heart warming to see youngsters in this day and age actually show concern for their sisters in this country.

InshaAllah I make dua Allah swt grants you patience.

12-22-2011, 11:09 PM	#16
JohnfAclambrJA Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 457 Senior Member	Allah swt grant you and your family afiyat. The first thing to accept brother is that this is going to be a struggle for you but a very rewarding one once you see the fruits of your efforts. It will require much duas, observing tahajud, charity and most of all PATIENCE. InshaAllah at the same time seek guidance from Ulema through mashwera. With regards to effort on family, Taleem at home is an amazing tool i.e. reading from fadhail e amal. Whether your sister or mother etc participate or not, make it your goal to observe it daily at home and a need for yourself. If your sister is away from practices of deen, a heavy hand and order like approach will not do much but cause her to rebel further. You need to instill the love of Allah, Nabi saw, the sahabh and the deen into their lives. You have to lead the way forward and lead by example. Brothers have always given me two examples pertinent to the effort on families: 1) When Nabi saw made the call to deen, who was the first to insult and rebel against him? His uncle Abu Lahab. Who were at the forefront against opposing Nabi saw? his Uncle- Abu Jahal. We see that in the struggle to do dawah, the biggest obstacle could be the very ones we love dearly i.e. our family and could be the means of doing our own tarbiyah. 2) Secondly, as you call towards deen, your sister will surely check you for weaknesses. Like when we cook meat or chicken, you cut it a bit to see if its cooked properly. In same way our family members will test if where for real or still "raw". This will require patience from you and once they see changes in you, changes for the better, THIS will be what will entice her towards deen inshaAllah. On a side note, it is heart warming to see youngsters in this day and age actually show concern for their sisters in this country. InshaAllah I make dua Allah swt grants you patience.
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