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**gettoblaster** · 12-11-2011, 01:18 PM

Ohh okay I get it now JZK.
Also im pakistani and in our culture we chill with our fam so cousins aunts uncle etc... so there is free mixing with family.. I knw that free mixing is haram... so ..... its haram for me to chill with my male cousins?

Definitely.

If so what would you suggest I do?
I cant exactly NOT chill Otherwise I would be the loner on the side... Because its something EVERYONE does? Our would U suggest I go sit alone to avoid haram? I live in Bangladesh. So the culture is same here. I don't live at my home. So it's not a problem for me to avoid non-mehram female relatives. But when I go home during vacation, then I face the trouble.
I don't go in front of them willingly. When they come to me and ask anything, I look at the ground and try to give the shortest answer. My attitude proves that I'm feeling uncomfort. So they don't bother me further. I think you should proceed in this way.

Some strong suggestions of mine:

- Start covering yourself with veil.

- Stop all types of interactions with male cousins gradually.

- Increase relationship with female relatives so that they can not think that you've stopped connections with them.

- Read Islamic books and tell others about what you've read.

12-11-2011, 01:18 PM	#15
gettoblaster Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 634 Senior Member	Ohh okay I get it now JZK. Also im pakistani and in our culture we chill with our fam so cousins aunts uncle etc... so there is free mixing with family.. I knw that free mixing is haram... so ..... its haram for me to chill with my male cousins? Definitely. If so what would you suggest I do? I cant exactly NOT chill Otherwise I would be the loner on the side... Because its something EVERYONE does? Our would U suggest I go sit alone to avoid haram? I live in Bangladesh. So the culture is same here. I don't live at my home. So it's not a problem for me to avoid non-mehram female relatives. But when I go home during vacation, then I face the trouble. I don't go in front of them willingly. When they come to me and ask anything, I look at the ground and try to give the shortest answer. My attitude proves that I'm feeling uncomfort. So they don't bother me further. I think you should proceed in this way. Some strong suggestions of mine: - Start covering yourself with veil. - Stop all types of interactions with male cousins gradually. - Increase relationship with female relatives so that they can not think that you've stopped connections with them. - Read Islamic books and tell others about what you've read.
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