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Old 11-30-2011, 12:51 AM   #1
Hoglaunccoolf

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Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi t3ala Wabarakatuhu,

I have many friends who aren't very religious, and during our conversations, they will sometimes tell me about relationships
with guys, and stuff they did which I know aren't encouraged in Islam, and sometimes they'll show me videos from youtube
which contain music and stuff, so I try not to say or do anything non-religious from my side, but when they are doing it, I dont
exactly stop them, like if they send me a video with music, I'll say "im sorry this has music so Im closing it", and sometimes they'll tell me about
their conversations with a guy, and I'll laugh with them and stuff (because I dont know what to say), but I wont talk about such stuff myself,
so sometimes thoughts come to my mind that what if Im being sinned for not stopping them from forbidden stuff? I try not to preach too much because
I don't want to scare them away or you know annoy them, so in the middle of the conversation I'll say one or two preachy things,
but not too much, Im not saying I'm better than them or anything, Im just confused, because I obviously want my friends to be on the
right path, but I dont know how to encourage them and stop them from bad. Do I get sinned from talking to them? or not stopping them?
I would love for them to stop but how do I help them?

Also some of my friends will talk bad about teachers or some of their friends who I know too and thats basically gheebah, and Ive tried
to stop the conversation, but sometimes they dont get it, and they continue, so I like move the phone away from my hear, go hmmm, then
again move it away until they are done, I dont mean to be rude, but I dont have much good deeds myself, I really dont want to give the
very few I do have, and then I dont want to annoy the friend either, so I end up doing that,but sometimes I dont feel like right....what should I do?

I hope you don't think I'm trying to be goody-two shoes, or that I think I'm better than them, Im pretty sure they are a lot better than me,
Im just trying to stay away from what I can without hurting them, and afraid of being sinned by not stopping them...
Jazakumullah t3ala khairan
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