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**Aleenkagirlla** · 11-30-2011, 05:42 AM

Wa'alaikum salaam wrwb sis,

I think most people who take deen seriously have had these problems. If you have tried to tell your friends that they shouldn't backbite and shouldn't talk to guys etc etc and your words are not having any affect, then it is best for you to protect yourself and find better friends. It is so easy to be negatively influenced by others, especially if they are 'friends' because you are more likely to have your guard down. If, however, you feel that the things you say are having some impact, I wouldn't cut them off completely, just limit interaction to what you feel is safe in terms of feeling that they are not negatively influencing you, and when you do see them then maintain the same stances you have been doing and make plenty of du'a for them, inshaAllah they will change, it just takes some time.

11-30-2011, 05:42 AM	#4
Aleenkagirlla Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 399 Senior Member	Wa'alaikum salaam wrwb sis, I think most people who take deen seriously have had these problems. If you have tried to tell your friends that they shouldn't backbite and shouldn't talk to guys etc etc and your words are not having any affect, then it is best for you to protect yourself and find better friends. It is so easy to be negatively influenced by others, especially if they are 'friends' because you are more likely to have your guard down. If, however, you feel that the things you say are having some impact, I wouldn't cut them off completely, just limit interaction to what you feel is safe in terms of feeling that they are not negatively influencing you, and when you do see them then maintain the same stances you have been doing and make plenty of du'a for them, inshaAllah they will change, it just takes some time.
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