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**sueplydup** · 11-30-2011, 05:55 PM

Run from these people. Unless your iman is exceptionally strong, they will drag you down to their level. Meet with them occasionally for da'wah purposes, but that's it. Keep yourself busy with deeni and dunyawi studies, so if they ask you to hang out, you have a real reason to say no.

@talibz.
The above is pretty good advice. Its totally true, before you get to change those type of friends they change you.... unless you are VERY firm in your imaan and deen.

But with friends you can still cut-off or limit your time with them. With family you can't. This often happens with some of my totally non-religious cousins. In that situation the best thing to do is change the subject as soon as you see it going in that direction - you don't have to make it seem rude or abrupt, just make a random comment about something else and slowly steer the conversation away from those lines. Or if you're already too deep in the topic, make it a joke. Just say: "Okay, please spare me the gory details, i have a super sensitive tummy and heart!"... or "I'll actually pay you to avoid this subject, that's how desperate i am not to hear it!"
Sooner or later they'll get the idea that you don't want to hear and discuss those things

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11-30-2011, 05:55 PM	#9
sueplydup Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 538 Senior Member	Run from these people. Unless your iman is exceptionally strong, they will drag you down to their level. Meet with them occasionally for da'wah purposes, but that's it. Keep yourself busy with deeni and dunyawi studies, so if they ask you to hang out, you have a real reason to say no. @talibz. The above is pretty good advice. Its totally true, before you get to change those type of friends they change you.... unless you are VERY firm in your imaan and deen. But with friends you can still cut-off or limit your time with them. With family you can't. This often happens with some of my totally non-religious cousins. In that situation the best thing to do is change the subject as soon as you see it going in that direction - you don't have to make it seem rude or abrupt, just make a random comment about something else and slowly steer the conversation away from those lines. Or if you're already too deep in the topic, make it a joke. Just say: "Okay, please spare me the gory details, i have a super sensitive tummy and heart!"... or "I'll actually pay you to avoid this subject, that's how desperate i am not to hear it!" Sooner or later they'll get the idea that you don't want to hear and discuss those things .
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