JzaKALLAH for your valuable response. I did meet thus guys in presence of my mehrem but when things get serious always get scared and find excuses not to enter the marriage. After things are over I regret my decision but then it's too late :-( btw it's not common in our culture to aak your geothermal or father to look for you a spouse that really is desperate. Also I'm not desperate in the sense that I'm desperate it's just that my biological clock is ticking and I have commitment issues.