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Assalamualaikum,

While there are many grounds of Talaq, it is the most disliked Halal thing from Allah SWT. MashAllah, you have been blessed with 6 children and the wife of your choice. If that is not a sign that she loves you, I don't know what is. Brother, if I may, I would die to be in your position in the sense that I am currently in a situation where I am trying to marry a particular girl that Allah SWT has gifted to inspire me to be the Muslim I am today and I am struggling trying to get her approval for marriage. You already have a wife that you have been married to for 30 years and does obviously love you (otherwise, you would not have been married for that long nor had that many children). Obviously, withholding the physical aspect of the relationship is haram (from what I understand) as that is one of the benefits of marriage that can only take place under the umbrella of marriage, but you gotta also realize that love exists beyond just that.

Honestly, I am sure you love your wife. Make dua for her and shed tears in the dua from your heart for Allah to increase the love between you and her, that Allah unite you, your wife, and your children in Jannat Ul Firdoz, and that you have desires and needs that you need to have fulfilled and that Allah SWT is the only one who can open her heart and that is why you are begging Allah SWT and no other being for this need. Allah SWT will surely answer your dua InshAllah. I mentioned the tears because it shows the state of your heart and mind. It is stated in a hadith:

Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said “Make dua to Allah in a state that you are certain that your dua will be responded to, and know that Allah does not respond to a dua that originates from a negligent, inattentive heart” (Tirmidhi)

I am confident Allah S.W.T. will answer your dua to unite you and your wife even closer and that all your physical and emotional needs will be fulfilled InshAllah. Please make dua for your brother InshAllah... Assalamualaikum.