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Old 06-27-2011, 05:38 PM   #19
Jambjanatan

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Candycane, child abuse can be yelling at a child as well as spanking one, depending on your point of view.

There are are two problems I see off hand:

1. Government should never get involved in a parent's discipline of a child unless it endangers the child, or is disorderly conduct in public. I mean, how do you define abuse? Beating a kid with a baseball bat until they bruise, bleed, or break bones is not discipline, it is abuse, cruel, and never works. However, making the child go get the switch which is to be used to swat them on the back of the legs is discipline (in my opinion), as it makes a child think about what they did wrong as they go, not only meet their punishment, but they must procure the means of said punishment as well. Plus how many times have we been out in public and hear a Parent screaming at their child, as the child does what they please....., just saying.

2. If punishment of a child is not working, the child has no respect for authority of the parent, or adult who is charged with their care. Find out the problem for that lack of respect and fix it, while the child is still impressionable. Otherwise, they will never amount to anything as an adult, and will probably wind up abusing children themselves.
I totally agree with the switch. My great granny and maternal grandma exercised that practice and when they said jump i asked how high... my dads method was different but effective. It was never a mystery when he got mad, one look and you could see every shade of red on his face. He use to use his knuckle right in the swirl of hair on the back of my head. Never really hurt more than my pride, it was usually just the surprise of how quick it happened. A real attention better that was. Of course, typical son phrase, "I always had it comin". Of course there are those who would call that abuse, but really, discipline is all about what the kid listens to. Fail to find the right method, fail your kid. Honestly that is up to the kid, not dear ol'uncle Sam.
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