[Qwjyrgij]

Just some ideas.
Get a pet. Pets are known to cause a relaxing and happy effect.

Move to rural. The hustle and bustle of city life stresses.

Exercise. Personally, I find this idea disgusting, but some do exercises of some kind.

Compare your current situation to a time in your life that REALLy sucked. Then you can know, Hey. This isn't so bad.

[xT0U3UGh]

Start growing your own pot and smoke it. Listen to some slow music or otherwise classics like bob marley and the doors.. or electronic music like some smooth ambient.

[TouccuraLar]

Originally posted by Ecthy
Get more laid back by getting laid more my thoughts exactly.

but it's tough to get laid when you aren't laid back.

[Nglvayhp]

Listen to Sloww, he is wise and right

As for exercize, I'd advise long-lasting and slow exercize, such as long walks or long swims. When I feel like getting calmer, I really enjoy swimming for hours (no harsh exercize intended: just spending time swimming, and being alone with my thoughts).

I'd also advise you to generally wonder where your anxiety comes from. A constant state of anxiety likely is deeply rooted in your own insecurities, and you might want to know (or to feel) what these insecurities are before thinking about how to solve them.


Personally, while I've never been as nervous as you describe, I used to be much less laid back than I'm now (I'm 25, and I was most nervous at 17). Here's my experience, maybe yours has similar elements, maybe not, but here goes anyway:

I was most nervous back when I tried to conform to a group for which I wasn't fit: I didn't have the same culture, I didn't have the same values, I was brand new to the group and wanted to have the same friendships as old members had between each other. And I felt rejected, and as such I made constant efforts in that social setting, making me generally unsure.
This anxiety didn't only come from the fact that I felt I didn't fit, it also came from the fact that I thought I sucked. I felt ugly, boring, and the usual slew of complexes many teens have.

In order to get rid of this anxiety, I went through two aspects:
1. I encountered a group of friends in which I really fit, in which I'm accepted and liked for who I am. These guys are geeks, but they're the ones who made me feel good among people
2. It took some years, but I accepted who I am, both in terms of body and personality. Also, for the things I really didn't like (I used to feel fat, for example), I managed to solve them, which solved my feeling of powerlessness.

I'm generally laid back, because I'm confident that I can overcome problems, and that I'm generally a good guy. And this confidence didn't come alone, but both through actual problem-solving and introspection.

I find that long swims and walks are very good for introspection btw.

[annouhMus]

Find a good yoga class to join.

[AlexBrith]

ur gay, find a big stud

JM

[BodeOmissemia]

move to the east coast, theyll love ya

[stuck_in_WA]

go out and get a drink instead of posting here

[lopesmili]

Or at least put a deposit in the spank bank.

[dolaBeetCeage]

Lots and lots of masturbation. In public.

JM

[crazuMovies]

Before you react to anything, hold back a second. Think to yourself, "Should I let this bother me?" Then answer yourself, "Bah, fat chance."

Also keeping a smile on your face - you may have to work at this initially - helps.

[Nglvayhp]

Originally posted by Flip McWho

So, so damn hard to do though. I don't think so, it feeds back on itself so it gets easier as you go along. You just have to decide that you need to calm down and have the minute attention span and will necessary to get started. The goal is to almost completely quit thinking and get in touch with your inner lizard by focusing your attention on your most basic functions. Anxiety typically exists higher in the brain and is literally undercut.

[rozalinasi]

I'm alive, all my friends r doing okay, all else is just filler.

Btw, I'm extremely laid back. However I think it went hand n hand with my overall lack of motivation. So dont be too laid back.

[inofindy]

there are pills for this. maybe your doctor can help you out?

also, excercise is always good

[ZESINTERS]

come to Amsterdam!

[Haibundadam]

there was lots of rain in Amsterdam this past weekend

[BokerokyBan]

Been there and back. Amsterdam is great, its better than Birmingham, Bath and Bristol!

I wont be getting an early flight back again, I overslept and missed it

[viawbambutt]

JUST FLOG TEH DOLPHIN ALREADY!!!11one

[art_fan_12]

It was actually Darius ^^

[DagoIgnog]

Originally posted by johncmcleod
I think I'll try it, but I usually lapse out of it, especially when I am trying to discuss something I think is important, or when I am thinking deeply and talking at the same time. I can either be intelligent, or talk slow, but I can't concentrate on both usually. Intelligence is overrated. Especially in a social setting, intelligence is not really essential, as long as one isn't completely dumb.