So yeah, I like my massage therapist...
 

So yeah I have a little thing with this really nice massage chick. She seems to be a little flirty and well can't help be a little flirty too.

My next session is in a month or so and after that there wouldn't be any real need to see her again for therapy for a long time.

Now I'm sick of waiting for chances and I'm really slow to pickup signals, and when I analyse the conversation later I realise I might have screwed up some opportunities by responding in the wrong way.

Any ideas how I should confront this? I need a plan in my head to make things click and possibly meet her outside of the whole massage thing.

The bonus is I have her mobile number, lol.

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If you're never going to see her again like you said then you have got everything to gain and nothing to lose in asking her out.

I'm just afraid doing it at her place of work would be very akward, and would have a negative effect. Though then again if she does have some interest it might be ok.

I''m confused. http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ies/blush1.gif

Well its not too difficult just ask her if she'd like to go have coffee sometime or something like that. Don't make it sound like a date, just be casual about it. You know, ask her what she is doing that weekend and if she is free ask her if she'd like to have coffee. If she sounds busy then acknowledge the fact that she sounds like she has a lot going on and then just say "well I was wondering if, sometime when you're not so busy, you'd like to go grab coffee with me."

Remember that its in the interest of both of you that things not be awkward and no ones feelings get hurt, so if you ask her and she says no its not like she's going to freak out and slap you and start yelling or anything. If she really isn't interested she will let you know in a subtle way and it will be fine. And if she is interested she will let you know. If worst comes to worst all that will happen is that she will be flattered and your feelings aren't hurt, and you walk out of the office never having to feel embarrassed about it.

When she's finished, you could try something like -
"Well, I guess I'm no longer your patient" with a smile and, if she's interseted, she may come back with something like
"Well, I guess you're not" with a smile, which'll be your cue to say something like
"Well, then I guess it's OK to ask you out for a coffee, or something" with a smile and you can take it from there.

ahh good idea. just casually bring it up sort of.

Thing is she's asked me what I've done and sort of what I do in my spare time. Something tells me I should have thought of something then!

start texting her. Tell her you forgot the date of your next visit and sort of casually poke at the idea of meeting up outside of her work

She text me once... and I've thought about that. She was running late, she even sent it with a little smile.. :)

Only thing is I never got it till after as I just changed phone number that day, it was on my other phone.

At least I know she keeps my number and is willing to use it. http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ies/smile1.gif

I now have two business cards of hers and both have her pic. http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ies/blush1.gif

Tell her how much the therapy helped you and you want to thank her by buying her dinner.

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If you already got her number.. then I think you got everything laid out there for ya! Like others said.. just ask to spend some time with her casually.. asking for a cup of coffee is a good start and could be like a friend-to-friend thing rather than a date. And just let the friendship build up from there!

false hopes matey.....

shes a massage therapist,.

tbh that's what I was thinking.

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my thoughts exactly http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ies/laugh1.gif

I see them as the hot waitress type. They flirt with you and act all friendly, but they just want big tips and want you to keep coming back.

I thought the same altough if he likes her he should always make a shot.

call her up you sissy

Don't ask her at work.

Call her up and ask her if she wants to come out with you and some friends for a casual dinner.

Leave it about 3 days after your last appointment. If she likes you in any way, then she would be thinking about why you haven't called her and when you finally ring her she will be surprised by it all and I think more likely go out.


Just give it a shot, there is nothing to lose out of the situation!