How can i be happy ?
 

SWS

Each day i get a lot of stress, frustration, depression, sadness, and i'm not a successful person (anything i try to do i'm a big failure at it).

Please i want something that could change my feelings, and please try to advice one thing at a time, im not going to do many things at my first attempt.

Thank you.

Asalaam

I would recommend connecting yourself with a shaykh
Bringing more purpose and drive into Islam in some way, how is your recitation of the Qur'an, is it with tajweed

How is your friend circle
Wasalaam

Salam brother, it's sad to see another brother who is sad. Dua is the best tool brother, do a lot of dua and have faith and patience. Hang around with other Brothers and socialise with them... We all have sad days, and when i do i tend to pray and go out with good brothers and i usually find myself feeling better.

Remember brother, this life is so short, it can never harm you... you will go home soon inshAllah, home to Paradise... then there is no pain or sadness. Be patient, do dua and never forget that Allah loves you and will never overburden you.

Sometimes we tend to look at the horrible stuff going on in our life, i do it too, but remember the blessings of the Almighty, how many people who have much less than you brother, you are blessed... we all are. Allah never abandons you brother, He is there... ask Him, plead to Him, He will listen. InshAllah Allah is our only source of happiness.

Follow the example of the Prophet, brother, He lost His beloved wife and uncle in one year, what did he do? He stayed strong and had Allah with him.

When we lose everything brother, our friends, our family, our loved ones, our car, our house, our job, our money, our health, our age... We lose everything brother, but one friend will always be there... Allah will never leave you, please do dua to him brother... He is your Best friend,,, do not forget to go back to Him.

If you need any any specific help let me know and i will help as much as i can.

Don't ever lose hope brother... We are Muslims, we are lucky. This is only temporary.

May Allah help you, forgive you and make you happy my brother.

Salam.

At the moment i cant.

Im not good at tajweed.

No friends.

I don't have much friends too, let me know if you'd like to keep in touch.

improving my tajweed helped me recite the Qur'an a lot better, it also improves your attachment to the Qur'an.

Dua is the weapon of a beliver, try to get in a habit of making dua, before you go to sleep in your bed lie down and talk to Allah, at first it may seem awkward, first talk to Allah and then let your emotions come out and ask from Allah whatever you want, in time this habit of talking to Allah will become very close to you and you will feel some attachment to Allah when you ask your needs, you don't need to raise your hands or face the qiblah or anything other than talking to Allah in your bed until you fall asleep if even for a couple of minutes.

As I have experienced just as bad company can instantly destroy a person, solitude slowly drives a person towards destruction especially in the troubled environmets we live in, find good company some how or find some friendship.

Are you introverted?

Just look at all the good in your life stop looking at the negative. Instead of saying I am in stress, sadness, depression and I am a big failure....say I am loved, smile, I am happy I can smile at people, say a good word, be generous with my time and self.. I am successful and I am blessed. If you find yourself getting into negative thought patterns either ignore them pay no attention to them, or accept them and be aware that they are just thoughts which have no reality...lies... In fact you are blessed with life and being a human and a Muslim is a tremendous blessing which you can always acknowledge by trying your best to do good to the people you might meet everyday in your life. Be carefree and joyous, every breath you take concentrate on it feel its blessedness enter and energise your body. Know that Allah swt is with you always and He created you and gave you this life, try to make the most of it, before it ends. Act as if you are happy and you will become happy. Allah swt says I am as my slaves opinion of Me...if you have a good opinion you will experience life as good....even so called bad things can be seen as blessings sometimes.

May Allah make it easy for us.

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Recite durood as often as you can

Read inspirational narrations/books as often as you can. If you start crying while reading the Quran or while reading the seerah, it should help ease some emotional tension http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ilies/insh.gif

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Well of course you're gonna be depressed if you're sitting around at home never interacting with any friends. Go meet some people!

this is my sincere advice ..if u honestly want to be happy 24/7???? then just simply dont do any action that would displease ALLAH.......its really simple!!! n it works!!!!!!!!! (but its realy hard) iA u can do it

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Brother,

I know exactly how you feel. It took me a long time to get over those feelings. I know this will sound cliche, but turn to Allah. I mean really turn to Him. Try to perfect your prayers, try your best to pray in jamaah, especially isha and fajr, do more istighfar, more salawat to Nabi http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ilies/pbuh.gif, more tilawah, even if your tajweed isn't perfect. If you don't already, grow the beard. Try as much as you can to bring the sunnah into your life, and make dua fervently and frequently.

Occupy yourself completely with the worship of Allah, and I guarantee He will make you happy. This doesn't necessarily mean you will become a big success. Maybe you are one of those people whom Allah has decided to test with lots of failures. Try to convince yourself that this is something to be happy about. That your reward in the akhirah will be increased because of your hardship in the dunya.

The most important thing is to fulfill all of the faraaidh/wajibaat.

By feeling the way you do your indirectly being ungrateful towards Allah
for the life he gave you . Allah do not do any injustice to anyone . For every life how ever varied it may be Allah gives the individual the means and ability to become successful in every sense.

Our objective is to live our life for Allah , what we do on earth be it
directly concerning success in Akhira or worldly functions and duties are
for the same goal that is Akhira and Allah .

So why are you complaining ? Its not your life , it was given to you by
Allah and your job is to live it for him . Have fear and love for Allah.

Stop comparing you life with other people or even assuming how your life should be or should have been . Live in the present because it will never
come back and we are all running towards our death.

dedicate your self more to islam you will feel alot bettar when your religous

Has anybody recommended Do Not Be Sad by Shaykh 'Aidh Qarani?

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Leave sins. Seek good company. Read Tafweez by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel.

Tafweez -> http://yunuspatel.co.za/books-tafweez.php

Quran says *"Ala bizikrillahi tatmainnal qulub"*
Verily, hearts get peace and tranquility in remembrance of Allah. http://discussworldissues.com/forums...lies/taala.gif
So,do abundance zikr and you will find divine happiness. http://discussworldissues.com/forums...ilies/insh.gif

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abandoned zikr --> Zikr in adundance

@Nipusalma
Sister,
Any suggestion that takes a disturbed brother or sister in speculative direction is not welcome. Please resist to jump in such situations.

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It was indeed big mistake.

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The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: "whoever Allah wants to have goodness in him, He would put him in tests and hardship"........ Sahih bukhari

Recite this
Laa ilaaha illallaahul-azeemul-Haleem. Laa ilaaha illallaahu Rabbul-Arshil-Azeem.Laa ilaaha illallaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wal ardh,wa rabbul-Arshil-Kareem

Qaseeda burdah makes me happy no matter how sad I get, brings a smile to my face knowing I am using the best of waseelas to approach my God and creator.

Another is a punjabi nasheed about how lucky Haleema(RA) was, she ofcourse was the prophet's(pbuh) foster mother.

wird of Subhanallah also helps