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Again in an ideal world that would be the case. But as sad as it seems we don't live in an ideal world. My cousin wanted to marry an Arab guy but both families refused to acknowledge the marriage, so there's nothing left but to decide between family or guy/girl. Any reasonable person would go for the family even if they family is in the wrong.

I think some of the brothers/sisters are trying to say is that at least in your heart you should accept a mate that is not part of your tribe/culture. If your parents do not approve then that is their business, but as far as you are concerned it should remain a possibility. If your heart is closed to outsiders than their is no chance for getting married to outside the tribe, if your heart is open maybe Allah (swt) will bless you with a pious husband not from your culture. The main objective is to get married to a good man, not a good somali man.