[SinyugiN]

My hubby was quite skeptical at first. Where I spoke up was my request to him to please let the derogatory remarks remain in his head, that whether he understood or believed what I was doing, that as someone sharing our home together, I didn't want to use pos energy on balancing his neg energy! He looked at me blankly, then agreed. Two months later he went into ER from internal bleeding at 1:30 a.m. My sister awoke with a heavy nosebleed at the same time, which continued until exactly 1:50 a.m., the time my husband's blood transfusion started. The climate has lifted. I was coping with his earlier attitude but did set a boundary on negative remarks. If ya ain't workin' for me, don't work against me! Also there may be an underlying fear "Maybe she Is/Does Have Something Special and what if she outgrows me!" xox Harp

[MondayBlues]

My spirituality is a big part of me, and though I have repressed it now and again, I notice when I do- alot of things go wrong including unwanted stress.
I do not lay it all on the table, I will subtely mention small parts of what I believe, for example, things about us having souls, soulgroups, angels, etc.
I don't provoke a serious conversation but I do bring up the subjects to warm him up to it. However, he snaps me out of it almost immediately. I do respect others beliefs, but I also do not want to feel like I have to tiptoe around the subject either. He thinks its silly and it makes me feel small when he makes certain comments.
This is mainly due to him having bad experiences with the christian religion, he has had many bad experiences and it has completely turned him off from anything spiritual. So, for example, if I mention something like an angel- instant rejection. I understand people have different beliefs, its just, when he speaks of things I don't necessarily believe in-, I listen with open ears, respect, and even fascination at times.
I guess I'm really yearning for someone to have a close relationship/friendship with that I can be totally myself with. My biggest lesson right now is self-love and it makes it hard to do that when I feel like I always have to hide parts of myself from people.
Don't get me wrong- he's a great guy aside from that, its just due to him having some personal issues with religion in the past, it gets him in a defensive stance.
Just really curious if anyone here had the same issue with a partner or loved one accepting and how they usually go about dealing with it. Do you just keep it seperate from them?

[EmpokemyMok]

That's tough because something important to your soul is not vibing with someone else.
I personally don't know if I could stay with someone who rejected spiritual matters because I put those as number 1. The physical is lower on the list.
I'm sure you will know what to do in your own situation.

[Binuilienzync]

Destiny,

I completely understand where you are coming from. I can not say my husband fully understands or supports my spirituality. I see eyes glaze over at times when I bring it up. He never tries to dissuade me from my journey but until things happen to him, I think it is hard for him to truely believe. For the most part, we share a good life together, but it is sad for me that I am not able to share this part of me with him. I don't hide this part either but I find that I say things like " I know you think I'm crazy but.....whatever spiritual truth I am feeling" and he just listens but there is no discussion. But in the big picture, I may not have that in him but so much else. Life is good and I shouldn't complain so.

[Erexecike]

You just have to learn to compromise with each other.

[vekiuytyh]

It is always difficult when people can have some differing interests
We share so much of ourselves that we leave ourselves too open
People do not have to share our open, honest and relaxed beliefs,
however, we should continue to be ourselves as we let other people

[wMceqj7F]

hey destiny

You're not alone there. There's not really anyone I can have an open conversation about this sort of stuff except the ppl on this forum.

As for the boyfriend, don't worry about him not being interested. As I'm writing this a converation i had with a lady the other day came to my mind. we were discussing relationships and how my partner and i spend a lot of time in seperate parts of the house, watching tele while at home. She said to me, yes, But thats because you have different hobbies and interests and i thought, Yeah thats right, i couldnt argue it. When I thought about trying to get my partner to watch sex and the city it kinda made me giggle, not gonna happen every night lol.
maybe just try and look at it from that point of view.
It's okay to have different beliefs. maybe he's knocking you down, cos he's too scared to contemplate believing in it. I dont even try with my partner these days lol. just with a joke here and there i do when he notices me on the comp. i still tell him about most of my reads lol even though he doesnt really answer, he hears me though lol and thats enough..

[nAKMzyBN]

Destiny-

Have you told him how you feel? Just like the way you just told us but with a more firm hand?

Put aside that he is a great guy - I am sure he is. He is your partner and is not respecting your values whether he agrees with them or not.

You need to sit him down and let him know I respect your values and I expect the same in return. I feel drawn to tell you to read Pagan's article on being the victim. If he makes fun of you or makes you feel bad then he is victimizing you and its time to put that to a stop.

We can all live in harmony with different beliefs hun. This is a little different than your partner but I have a close relationship with my mother who used to much of the same thing to me, it was pretty severe actually. I had to put my foot down and let my voice to be heard and low and behold while she still doesnt agree with the way I believe, she does now listen. We debate but in a much more loving way that keeps the conversation alive and interesting even if by the end of the day we go to bed believing the same way we did before the conversation began. Don't hide who you are with loved ones. Its hard enough to live in this world hiding aspects of ourselves from strangers.

[NumDusthouh]

You've all said it beautifully !

I, too, have a partner that didn't believe in "all of this" but he was NEVER disrespectful of my beliefs. As we grew together and I shared with him my experiences, he would smile and say nothing. Not believing obviously. One day, I sat him down and said.. "Look, I know you think this stuff is Horsedung but humor me. Ask me something I know nothing about. A spirit perhaps that you have known who died." He took my challenge. I blew him away.

He has since become my biggest fan and supporter. He sings my praises to whomever we meet and vouches for me being "the real deal." His favorite line is "I don't know HOW she knows these things.. but she does!"

Things happen! lol Be honest and open. He MAY change!

[pE71J5Sw]

You all have a valid point and made me feel better about it : ) I guess its just he really irks me when he makes comments like that. But you know, like MG said, everything else about him I can't really complain about- and I have to put myself in his shoes, as well. I may not can RELATE to why it bugs him, because I haven't had the same experience, but I can try to understand.