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Old 07-16-2012, 07:17 PM   #2
LottiFurmann

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Dear all

I just joined this beutiful forum. Always I have wondered about some of the customs and tradition that we have been following. I wanted to know whether we should observe 10 days of mourning period ( we call here in kerala tamizh as 'pelai' ) for the death of distant relatives - cousins - termed as dhaayadhis. Recently one of the distant cousin (the exact relation goes as my the departed soul is my great grandfather's cousin brother son) passed away. I have to start living in a new house for which already grahapravesam and all other things are done. but some of the pundits here are telling I can start staying only after 10 days of the mourning period. Is it necessary. I don't even know this relative who passed away. I do expect a valid advise with reasons as I believe some of the rituals and tradition should be modified according to the current time period. Also I have lot of questions on other practises as well which I will post in different entries. thanks again for creating a wonderful space to share our views.

rgds

MohanIyyer
Mourning was observed along with near and dear when their beloved one departs for eternal world.So If you celebrate your joyous occasions their sorrow may be ecxagerated.So to be humane you have to limit your feeling for other's sake. When you have no connection with them what had prevented your joy.( Heard in some Upanyaasam) With warm regards wrongan.
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