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I feel for ya, I really do. I had my brother come stay with me and he has 2 APBT. They were well behaved, but if he "forgot" to feed them or let them out I would end up having to do it.

See this from the dogs point of view. No toys to chew when the urge to chew hits, no training to stimulate mind, not enough exercise and attention, punished for doing things you're allowed to do over at the other house and really have no idea are "bad" things, no real routine with structure and rules... Of COURSE this dog is a misbehaving mess.

Tell your brother this isn't working. Tell him the dog needs to be trained, training needs to be consistent if it is going to work and that means the dog doesn't go to the ex's house anymore (since she isn't training her) or the dog goes there permanently and the ex can deal with piss, shit, and her stuff being destroyed.

If he decides to keep the dog, she stays at your house, he has to exercise and train her, keep her tethered to him when he's there and crated when he is gone, on a feed and water schedule to get her on a potty schedule and he has to get her some toys so she can chew without destroying your things. If he fails to do any of these things daily, you will consider it him being an irresponsible owner and the dog will have to go.

For the good of the dog and for him, put your foot down! If he doesn't like it, he's free to leave.