[raspirator]

It means you're not any fun, but they don't want to tell you that. Sorry.

[teentodiefows]

It means you're not any fun, but they don't want to tell you that. Sorry. You pretty much nailed it. But people who don't think at all, who think they have it all figured out, would bore me to tears.

[LOVEBoy]

Maybe you just hang out with dumb people.

[capeAngedlelp]

Originally posted by Sn00py
no no, this is not it, I am definitely the most fun in the crowd.

But I hate small-talk, small-talk requires no thinking. Because small talk is so boring, I actually find it requires more thought than just rambling about subjects that interest you.

Once you've exhausted the weather, topical news stories and sport, my mind begins to panic somewhat.

[Mark_NyB]

It's a nice way to say stfu and let's not ever bring this up again.

[majestictwelve]

it just means you are a nerd.

I get that sometimes, but usually they say I'm too serious.

[TorryJens]

Originally posted by nostromo
Maybe you just hang out with dumb people.

[brorialsibers]

No problemo Glad to help, call on me anytime.

[Alex]

sorry didn't see your question. Not good to overanalyze because you will eventually drive people away as well as they won't want to hang or go do things with you because they know what's always going to happen. Let me guess, you have a best friend or really good friend but they tell you that you drive them nuts sometimes?

[Iphone]

Yes Tiamat, thats right.

I have friends and relatives who I can talk to about deep topics (eg my dad), but others just can't delve into it. (eg my mum).

I will tell you the truth Tiamat, I would love to talk in Simple-Mode, but it is damn hard to do, I will lose concentration, probably because I become bored with all the useless knowledge thrown at me, such as, how was your day, or this person did that the other day.

[Tauntenue]

Originally posted by Sn00py
I will tell you the truth Tiamat, I would love to talk in Simple-Mode, but it is damn hard to do, I will lose concentration, probably because I become bored with all the useless knowledge thrown at me, such as, how was your day, or this person did that the other day. Woah, hold on. If you don't care about the day that was had by a person who should make up half of the whole, then the problem seems to lie with you.

[viiagrag]

Originally posted by Lancer
Meet a Filipina. They don't care how much you think because it's your brain after all. In my case, it was a Filipina who told me this. She was right, too.

[ddwayspd]

Originally posted by Sn00py
What is this? "You think too much". What does this mean? Often, from females, I am told that I think too much.

How can you think too much? Is that really a bad thing? If I didn't think a lot, what would happen? Would I be less aware? Less able to comprehend? Less understanding? (Did I just say the same thing 3 times?)

So what? Should I just stop thinking? Maybe I think a lot because I am an imaginative person? Like a writer, surely writers must think a lot.

Is it not normal to think a lot? So is it true that most people do not think about stuff a lot? Long-winded post. The same happened to me about one year ago, and I'm trying to sum up my year-long thinking/feeling process step-by-step (the process still hasn't come to an end)

I heard that quite a bit in the monthes after my breakup as well. This statement (which I heard way too often, from too many people to ignore) actually prompted me to think more

At first, I was almost outraged by the idea that I could think too much. After all, thinking is what separates me from an animal or from a moron. It has always been my main strength, and mankind's strength too.

But after that, I wondered what it could possibly mean. It didn't mean that I hung out with the wrong people, stupid people. I know my friends well enough to be certain that it's something else.

Basically, it means that I'm not spontaneous. But the phrase "I'm not spontaneous" can be meaningless. Why the heck would I want to be spontaneous? My personality has always been about thinking before acting. Obviously, I felt like the people who told me that I was thinking too much were misguided: In my opinion at the time, following this advice would lead me to just try to adopt a new personality that isn't actually mine.

But then, I thought different. "Thinking too much" wasn't merely about spontaneity. It was about my relationship to my feelings. For most of my teenagehood, up to my breakup last summer, I felt that my emotions were barely existent. I was an extremist in my rational outlook on life: everything was explainable. Everything was rationalizable. I strived to have a rational behaviour.

My breakup changed that. I became fully aware of my feelings' existence. Jealousy, anger, melancholy, despair, I felt all that... I was aware that they were feelings, and I didn't attempt to think as if I was behaving rationally.

However, I was considering these feelings as bad things. Alien things that I had to put under control, so that I could still have a rational life despite these little ****ers running galore inside me. I had to understand them. Had to understand what triggered them. And to understand them, the first thing to do was to turn my feelings into words. Into concepts that I could think about, concepts that I could intellectually manipulate. In the end, I spoke about my feelings like any scientist would speak about a topic of study.

It is when I did it that I got the brunt of the "you think too much" statements. I was a brutal rationalist: I had a goal-oriented attitude, I had a strategy to reach my goals, I was aware of my internal weaknesses which I tried to put under control, and I was constantly reflecting on this, analyzing it.

Since then (it was a few monthes ago), I have become more laid-back. I have understood that I shouldn't conceptualize my feelings too much: as I put words on my feelings, my mind figures them as being static (whereas their true nature is to change very often). As such, when I "analyze" my feelings, I'm doomed to have a flawed result.

I am currently in the process of embracing my emotional side, living with my feelings and not against them. I still think on things worth thinking about (politics & suchlike, carreer plans, organization of my local chapter), but I am increasingly spontaneous in the areas of life that deserve it, especially when it comes to friendships, and maybe even romance at some point.

"Spontaneousness" here doesn't merely mean that I'm doing my every whim whenever I feel like it (I don't), but that I'm at peace with myself: my brain is stopping his long oppression over my heart, and I'm a much more balanced fellow now.

[Smeaphvalialm]

Spiffor, you DO think too much......

[Scukonaher]

You think too much

It's also or could be about indecisiveness, as in "just do it, will you!".


Spiffor, you DO think too much......

...and also types too much.

[pushokalex1]

Emotions are for the weak.

[cl004]

I wonder when your sense of humour was removed.

[enencephoth]

Spif doesn't think too much. He just hasn't learned that you can't build a logic box around an illogical creature. They just hit you with an illogical statement, ie, you think too much. The solution for Spif is, of course, a filipina.




While they are still women and therefore emotion is over logic, their emotion is towards their relationship, their family, their romance. Their emotions agree with their man's logic. The situation becomes one of cooperation, not contention.

Alot less stress, alot more simple joy in life.

Now I'm talking about provincial women like my wife. I've heard there are lots of western like problems with girls from Manila.

[AriaDesser]

WHAT? You dare to question me reds!?!?

[TpDoctorOneTp]

Sooo sad for you.

Which city pray tell.