[gghrdfffhfyj]

Well still seems a bit wierd

to me.. Sorry I guess I ain't that smart
But.. fx. if I wanna do this in a group where were working

with more people that can "disturb us or take her attention" what then?
If she turns to another groupmember and

starts looking at a laptop.. Shall I come over to her side and look at the laptop also?
And what if the person is

very shy and not so talkative.. You know people that only says yes and no and want you to start the

conversation..?

[movlabz]

You cannot work with every

person. There has to be a willingness to interact with you or you'll get nowhere. If a person turns away or ignores

you, go on to somebody else.

If a person answers with just yes or no you are the problem. You are not asking

open-ended questions.

[gghrdfffhfyj]

Okay then..
What I mean

with people that only answer yes and no is the "kind of people" (I don't like to generalize as there's "types" of

people) that doesn't say much no matter what you do..
If you ask a yes/no question they always have the

opportunity to keep the conversation going on further if they want..
And what I meant was that "these types of

people" will have she shortest possible answer in any case.. If you ask them how was your childhood, they can tell

is was good sometimes because bla bla bla, and bad sometimes because bla bla bla etc. so you can talk forever about

it.. We're talking years they can tell about, so they have the opportunity to say more than just "good". Some

people just shut down because they're shy or doesn't like tlaking or whatever but always they have very very short

answers to everything..
When dealing with these "types of people" is it again that I just have to move on or..?

[movlabz]

Try questions like "What do you

think about..." or "What kind of work do you do?" Followed by "Oh? What do you think about ...in your work?" It

helps to read some and have a wide general knowledge of the world so you can ask intelligent questions.

There

are people you are never going to be able to interact with, probably the majority. But there are a lot that you can

get to talk by asking directed questions that cannot be answered with a yes or a no.

[wp6Eg2Fm]

I agree with Belgareth. Some

people just don't talk much. You then need to ask yourself, do you want to be with someone when you will have to

do the majority of the talking?
If not, then move on.

I have to talk constantly in my job, on the phone, in

person, so sometimes I just don't have the inclination to talk much when out of the office. That's why I love

chatty men, who have something interesting to say. Sometimes I don't want them to get me to talk; I just want to

listen to them, so it helps if they are widely read and intelligent.

If someone is shy, they may never open up

in a group situation. Some people are just more comfortable one on one. I'm extremely confident on the outside,

but inside I'm more introverted, so I am more comfortable in smaller groups generally.

You'll get along better

with someone if you are similar in my experience and that includes similar on the scale of

introversion/extroversion. There is the theory that opposites attract, but most studies show that that is not the

case in the longterm. I could not be with someone who was not a good communicator - both with me and socially in a

group, because I want someone that will socialise with me if we're in a partnership.

[gghrdfffhfyj]

I don't wanna be with the

person.. Just wanna see that it works.. That I have the power to use it and the knowledge but I will not..

[AdvertisingPo]

NLP is about using your verbal

and non-verbal forms of communication in order to manipulate another person's thought processes and

emotions.

Example 1:
Politician is making a speech to a crowd of people.
"Are we sick of these high oil

prices?"
"Hell yes!" chants the people.
"Are we sick of this endless war?"
"Hell yeah!"
"What the people need is

a new leader!" (politican points to himself).

What happened there was the politican asked 3 questions. The first

2 questions had obvious answers of "yes" so that the people could not disagree with him. The third question is

what's known as an "embedded command" in other words a question disguised as an order. Since the people agreed on

questions 1 and 2 they are inclined to agree with number 3. Also the politician used body languange when asking the

third question by pointing to himself. This conjures up a patriotic image that will be etched into their minds. Next

time the people vote they will remember the 3rd question as well as the politician pointing to themself signifying

who they should vote for.

Ever watched a Democratic or Republican convention on television where the entire crowd

is heavily hyped up from excitement? Well whenever I watch those I get disgusted by the blatant and numerous amounts

of NLP on display.

[AdvertisingPo]

Example 2:
You walk into a

SevenEleven to buy a drink.
"Would you like a large cola?" asks the storeclerk.

By asking whether you would like

a "large" cola, 9/10 times you would agree with them and buy the large cola because it's easier to agree than

disagree. This method has been used in selling things for decades and is another example of embedding

commands.

Ever gone into a McDonalds deciding to just buy a regular meal and ended up walking out with a

Supersized meal? Well McDonalds have spent a fortune training their staff to use this embedded form of NLP to

increase their sales.

[gghrdfffhfyj]

That made some sence.. I

will have to look more into this stuff..

[EtellaObtaite]

Adolph Hitler used NLP very

effectively to "increase his sales."

Seriously.

[gghrdfffhfyj]

Adolph Hitler

used NLP very effectively to "increase his sales."

Seriously.

That also makes sence.. He asks

some normal questions when people need hope (because Germany was very low financially and everything was bad) and he

then asked a question like a command (as d3kst3r told about) and they solution in their head was him..