[LarryRda]

LOL - my husband's OW is a train wreck!!! She's heavy, short, and looks about 8 years older than she is!! She's also a moron to boot! She's several states away too so they never touched during this mess, but it really is nice to look at the disaster, isn't it?

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True Muffin! LOL He does get his verbal tongue lashings now and then.

I think the reason I harbor so much hate for his OW was because she was supposed to be my friend. I get so angry when I think about the way things happened, I told her I didn't like that they were getting so close and talking so much and she got PISSED at me because I should have known she would "never do that to you Kris!" She also got pissed at me a couple weeks before I found out because my husband realized what was going on and told her he needed to back off and focus on me and my marriage. Their whole "love thing" lasted about a month. He told me he realized he was getting too much into her and told her he wasn't going to spend so much time talking to her anymore. She had the gall to get pissed at ME that night and went off on me about how could I think that she would try to take him from me, blah blah blah. Did I mention this entire time she had a boyfriend and was staying at his house for a few weeks? Yeah, she's a *****.

The biggest part of my husband's affair, forgiving him and seeing how he's changed from it, is pretty much taking care of itself these days. I think most of my anger and hurt comes from the fact that I trusted that stupid ***** and she lied to me. Then, after it was discovered and I had a chance to fully talk with her, she first tried to pin the affair on him, then tried to pin it on me because I wanted her and my husband to get along. So it's my fault that I wanted some harmony in my life. I *pushed* them together. Wtf ever!

I've grieved over the change and loss in my marriage. I think I'm still grieving over the friendship I THOUGHT I had with her.

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I should learn to keep my mouth shut it seems.

I thought one of my best friends would agree with me on the way the OW looks and she said "honestly? I think she's pretty"

Back to feeling inadequate it seems... I mean, yeah, she IS pretty... I just took too much joy in her flaws and forgot I'm nowhere near as pretty as she is. I have a lot of work to do on myself.

[bumxumer]

Thank you Angel. I get those crazies too. I check OW's myspace page to see when she's last logged in. Every time she changed her photo, I downloaded it to my blackberry. My husband recently found out I keep these photos on my phone and asked why. I said so I never forget what's possible, so I never get too comfortable or complacent.

Even though she lives in another state, I'm still worried what my reaction would be if I ever ran into her. I'm pretty sure I would attack in a knee jerk reaction. Even though your/my husband has done penance, been remorseful, etc, we've never gotten (nor will we ever get) resolution from the OW. There's no real closure on that end.

But if it would make you feel any better, I live in NYC, and would smack that b!tch across the face for you if you like. LOL

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So in part of my crazy I look for signs of my ex best friend/husband's former OW on the internet. She has a unique name and is easy to find. I managed to find an old article from when she was with the guy she cheated on (with my hubby) and went to a show in the area he lived in. It's just over a year old, and she looks HORRIBLE in the picture.

You can tell she's sucking her stomach in, that she had gained weight, and she just looks awful. You'd think for being a make up artist she would look better than THAT!

My husband was very understanding and laughed when I said how horrible she looked. He asked me why I was so pleased and was almost gloating. The way I explained it to him was I was GLAD to see she gained weight because at least I knew she felt guilt for what she did to me. She LIED to me so many times about how she would never do that to me, and yet she did. It was crazy. I've seen more recent pictures of her (her new boytoy's facebook profile pic) and she still looks horrible. She has a very manish face and is just... ew. My husband has told me many times how blinded he was to how she looked, he just liked some parts of her personality (although very fake, if you ask me) because, he's realized now, I was the same.

Now, I know I have some extra weight on me and such, but if I were going to get my picture taken for an article like she did, I wouldn't wear something like that... it just made her look bad.

I probably should feel horrible for bashing her like I am, but damnit, I deserve to hate her. When I think about my husband's EA, I never think about what he did, he is still paying for it. I think about her lies and her deceit and how much I want to punch her in the damn face. LOL

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Well the only reason I was able to forgive him was that it was a long distance online EA. If he had actually f*cked her, all his **** would have been on the front lawn. I caught them only a couple weeks into it. I know they never met up because I was following his every move and at the time the affair happened, we were both unemployed. She lives several states away. He wasn't very smart about hiding it, he never texted anyone, including me, all of a sudden he started texting, etc. I had all access to the phone records, so I knew everything lol.

I've actually told my husband that if I ever saw her, I'd probably slap her right across the face, using a ring on my hand to cut the b*tch. I think I can get over my anger in time, but something tells me if I ever saw her face to face, I wouldn't hesitate, I would hit her. Probably a good reason to stay away from NYC (where she lives). Otherwise, I'd spend the rest of my vacation there in jail lol

I wish there was an alienation of affection law here, that applied to her in NY. She was trying to become a make up artist and I would love to add some tarnish to her career. She's such a b*tch.

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I talked to my husband last night about the whole conversation I had with her and he agreed with you guys....

I've known this girl for years and years... and every few years or so she does something to make me question why I'm still her friend. I guess I opened the door when I said I wanted honesty from my friends... but I know her first husband cheated on her with one of her best friends at the time and I never said "It's because she's much thinner than you" even though it was the truth, because that's hurtful.

Maybe I'm just a better person, who knows.