[santorio]

I went to the book store in search of something to help me figure out this man i thought i known from highschool, (my hubby) well, i originally thought something was wrong with him, i tried to diagnose him as bi-polar but it just didn't seem to fit so i borrowed the sociopath next door from the library and although i believed he' shared some of the characteristics i didn't believe that was the right tag for him and even the narcissist seemed to differ a bit, well i browsed the used section for a while looking for anything to help me classify this a**hole and came across a old book entitled "MeN WHO HATE WOMEN AND THE WOMEN THAT LOVE THEM"...SO for a dollar i figured what the hell ...and i must say this book defined my husband to the tee... So he is a misogynist..." just to quote a bit:

"The men in the relationships i was looking at were different(from socio & narcissists)They appeared to love intensely, and in many cases they had been in long-term relationships with one partner. Also they primary need differed from that of a narcissist in that they seemed to need control more than they needed to be admired"

The book went on to explain how these men manipulate everything, abuse with words in order to gain control from their spouse, They have a tendency to ware down their partners self-worth by being criticizing rude jerks, and then flip into prince charming everyone once in a while, they never apologize for anything because anything that goes wrong is their partners fault, and they routinely have extramarital affairs, and always believe that there partner is doing the same, this helps them to minimize there guilt, They really fear that there partner will leave them deep down and use's this hidden control to live their life the way they want too. Its begins in their childhood, until i read this book i always felt that my husband ridiculed me and say hurtful things and somehow i was always apologizing to him or because of him, but this book really put it into perspective, it also said that they will go to extreme lengths to make sure that they are not left by their partner, they will twist reality to the point that there spouse will not be able to recall what happen or didn't, that they fly of the handle about the smallest things are possessive and very jealous people....its really a great book i just wanted to share with yall.....

[drugstore]

Bottom line is, this kind of person will always love themselves more than they can ever love anyone else. Real piece of work ain't he?

You can't fix this kind of person, and these do not change. You deserve better than this, but he will continue as long as you let him.

[Pdarasenko]

Well. There you have it. You know what you're dealing with.

Don't allow yourself to slip into denial about who he is.

Thanks for sharing.

KitKat

[FloareTraurne]

thanks for sharing....we should start a book review list or something here.

SIS

[zU8KbeIU]

I m glad you found something that helps you understand. I would caution, however, that there is a fairly growing trend among publishers and Television promoting misandry. Books like this could be gender neutral, IMO, as women are every bit as represented among haters as are men.
Some of the sick, misandrist books out there are sickening with titles like " How to Train your man in 21 days" and the like.
I would suggest that any man being subjected to the type of misandry exemplified by one of the most visible man hater's, Dr Phil, start reading things by Mark Rudov, Paul Elam and Tara Palmatier. Shari Schreiber has some really good stuff, as well. These folks do an excellent job at revealing the gender bias against men among psychologists and counselors.