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Ironyrules

Well, it is pretty clear from your posts that you are well educated, I have to respect that about you, however I think you have been remiss in your approach to the patrons of this site. First, this is a site dedicated to infidelity, the people who come here are hurting and some of them are in dire need of assistance. In some cases we are the first line of counsel these people get, you dispense your advice with all the empathy of a butcher working on a piece of meat in a delicatessen. This isn’t a round table discussion on the matter, some of these people are really hurting, we are not here for your pleasure or amusement; I find your comment about the close mindedness of the people here very disconcerting.

And one of the reasons I'm posting is to find someone who thinks similarly, or has a good challenge for me, but this forum is so entertaining its ok that I probably won't find that.

This one is particularly impressive, remarkable that you find people who have been changed by their issues so engaging. You and I are in the same boat that a former partner marred our past with infidelity. I can easily tell you that a cheating girlfriend or boyfriend is NOT the same as a cheating husband or wife, I'm not trying to minimize the pain of that infidelity whatsoever but we can just dump a boyfriend, we need to DIVORCE a spouse!! We can’t imagine what some of these people have gone through or ARE going through so a statement like that one was highly insensitive and most of your posts come off as highly patronizing and elitist. I can’t judge you on the way that you live your life but the way you speak of it and your relationship with your husband is more of a business arrangement that a relationship and some of your “adventures” are, let’s say unconservative. If that works for the both of you than I wish you the best but realize that most of the patrons here, and even possibly the general public doesn’t approach life in this manner and of course there will be some disagreements regarding this. Are you really surprised by some of the responses you are getting? in truth as I read more of your posts I see that your heart is indeed in the right place however, before you write us all off as close minded morons, remember that most of the time your posts seem to cause acrimony from the others here, are they to blame or are you responsible?
I’m just calling the situation how I see it, take it however you want to take it, but for the good of yourself and the other posters here, take a course on how to speak to people, I’m probably sure it couldn’t hurt.