[Hankie]

This one is real dumb i guess but I can not get my head around why people cheat be it online in person etc. But still want to be with the person that they cheated on and still love? them. Why dont they leave first I know if i even was interested in doing anything like that i would end it with my significant other can anyone put this into perspective for me?

[Coededgeme]

Guess its the grass is greener on the other side syndrome. They are comfortable with their partner things start to seem boring and then.......bang cheatsville! hen they realise after when their relationship is in tatters that things were not so bad after all.
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[anatmob]

You can pretty well sum it up with one word. Dishonesty. A cheater has lied to his or her partner. And a liar is someone who might do anything given the chance. Think I want to lend money to a friend who is cheating with somone's wife? How could you trust him? So with the cheating partner, how can you ever trust them again. Society has became so permissive of this behavior. Morals have declined so people stray further from the older accepted morals. No accountablity any more. Something in someone's past gives them the excuse to do anything any more.
Just ask one of those counslers, They will tell you, that the cheating was caused by something you did or wasnt doing. And they charge you for that shi.t. Instead of putting the blame where it lies. There is NO EXCUSE for cheating, so your partner has put on a few pounds, got a few wrinkles, tits sagging, hell turn off the damn light and think back to earlier years. Shi.t its not that hard. Look with the heart not the eyes.
AND THE LAST REASON SO MANY PEOPLE CHEAT.........
They are not as smart as the peeps on here giving advice!

[Vitoethiche]

If we knew the answers to this one, we wouldnt be on here..

[hictchewisa]

For some its not quite that simple, like me and a few other men here. Me...I found out after we were already married and had two kids that my wife cheated.

I stayed because I have responsibilities to my kids.

[Abraham]

I'm new here, but I think my situation might be a little similar to Muffin Mans. So a quick question, if you had an 8 month old son that you are pretty sure is yours, would you stay or go?

[anatmob]

We give advice here, But no one here has to walk your Path, Mr..
Post your story and maybe you can get some answers by what others has been through. There are alot of good posters here.
Start a new thread and tell the whole story. Kids do complicate things, I know I been there.

[DrunkMans]

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[Coollabioto]

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[DrunkMans]

I personally don't think that online flirting or sex talk is cheating. It's fantasy and non-physical. However, I feel the problem is is that it becomes something bigger. The longer it continues, the more likely the two are to meet in person.

[Coollabioto]

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[Breilopmil]

Anything you do on or offline that you wont allow your partner to know about is infidelity

[Kalobbis]

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[LsrSRVxR]

These "people" are in constant need of flattery, self-esteem boosts, and more flattery. Their "needs" often supercede reality, and when they aren't met, look to blame others for their shortcomings.
I also think there is a sick kind of high they get. Just like you, the amazing thing to me is that their pursuit of satisfaction comes at the cost of people who love them. They can rationalize with the best, make moral judgements that blow anyone's mind, and apply their so-called ethics and morals to situations that suit them.

[hictchewisa]

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