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**Uplillacype** · 10-12-2008, 08:54 PM

My gf's brother is a 30 year old fat ass, a loner and has been "lonely" (single) for a long time, actually for a couple of years in a row without even a one night stand. So porn was all he had as far as these joys go.

So, now he has a girlfriend, she isnt exactly a hottie, but far from ugly and her face is pretty cute. Yet he tells me that sex with her isnt any good and he rather goes back to his porn.

I mean WTF? How can even the hottest porn queen on a screen be better than an actual real life girl (even if she isnt Playboy material) in your own bed? I told my gf and now she is afraid of him becoming a freak.

Gee... some people...

**irrascaft** · 10-12-2008, 09:01 PM

I think there's a psychological thing, that porn offers the most perverse and extreme forms of eroticism and some people get addicted to that. After a while they may find normal sex to be un-exciting.

**sDePrx59** · 10-12-2008, 09:02 PM

My gf's brother is a 30 year old fat ass, a loner and has been "lonely" (single) for a long time, actually for a couple of years in a row without even a one night stand. So porn was all he had as far as these joys go.

So, now he has a girlfriend, she isnt exactly a hottie, but far from ugly and her face is pretty cute. Yet he tells me that sex with her isnt any good and he rather goes back to his porn.

I mean WTF? How can even the hottest porn queen on a screen be better than an actual real life girl (even if she isnt Playboy material) in your own bed? I told my gf and now she is afraid of him becoming a freak.

Gee... some people...

LOL that is absolutely cracking! WOW

**Obsententicab** · 10-12-2008, 09:08 PM

Double post - my bad.

**Obsententicab** · 10-12-2008, 09:08 PM

The closest way for her to match the sensations he's getting from his movies, would probably involves buying a pet dog or farmyard creature of some sort.

**cestsennY** · 10-13-2008, 12:11 AM

soemtimes porn is just easier......lol

**arcalmanard** · 10-13-2008, 12:18 AM

Convince her to dress up like a Night Elf. I bet that'll change things.

**Civilrecordzz** · 10-13-2008, 03:12 AM

My gf's brother is a 30 year old fat ass, a loner and has been "lonely" (single) for a long time, actually for a couple of years in a row without even a one night stand. So porn was all he had as far as these joys go.

So, now he has a girlfriend, she isnt exactly a hottie, but far from ugly and her face is pretty cute. Yet he tells me that sex with her isnt any good and he rather goes back to his porn.

I mean WTF? How can even the hottest porn queen on a screen be better than an actual real life girl (even if she isnt Playboy material) in your own bed? I told my gf and now she is afraid of him becoming a freak.

Gee... some people...

Guess he needs to teach her the things he likes..

**suiviouse** · 10-13-2008, 03:25 AM

You need to find out what porn he likes, maybe its man on man stuff

**ssupermegatone** · 10-13-2008, 04:22 AM

You need to find out what porn he likes, maybe its man on man stuff

or perhaps woman on horse.

**dr-eavealer** · 10-13-2008, 04:47 AM

Guess he needs to teach her the things he likes..

Precisely. TBH, we all know what works for us (through experimentation, of course), and its different for each man. If a woman doesn't understand how to pleasure her man to his liking, he's not going to find satisfaction in it as much as he would by doing it himself. Couples have to work at sex to make sure that they are both getting out of it what they want to get out of it, otherwise, it's not going to work out.

**LarpBulaBus** · 11-12-2008, 11:57 AM

Precisely. TBH, we all know what works for us (through experimentation, of course), and its different for each man. If a woman doesn't understand how to pleasure her man to his liking, he's not going to find satisfaction in it as much as he would by doing it himself. Couples have to work at sex to make sure that they are both getting out of it what they want to get out of it, otherwise, it's not going to work out.

I highly doubt she'd enjoy doing the disgusting, perverse stuff that he's probably enjoying so often.

**Nubtoubrem** · 11-12-2008, 01:16 PM

I think there's a psychological thing, that porn offers the most perverse and extreme forms of eroticism and some people get addicted to that. After a while they may find normal sex to be un-exciting.

Exactly what I would have said but you said it so good. It's as easy that people are different.

**Uplillacype** · 11-12-2008, 06:01 PM

Hehehe, the general consensus seems to be that he is a perverted freak. I guess I'll ask him what he is into, and get back to you. [rofl]

I didnt have the impression of him being a pervert though.

**Arr34ston** · 11-12-2008, 07:33 PM

The big problem with being single and being addicted to porn is that you can view Real life sex through "rose tinted spectacles".

i.e. You have preconceptions about how you would like sex to be with your g/f or wife etc, but because your dealing with a real human being with their own feelings and wants, Your image of how you want them to be, in a sexual situation doesn't conform with how you would like to see them in some pron movie you've watched or some other sexual fantasy you've had.

Its like, Imagine you spend years looking at porn involving something like "bum sex", you get it into your head that its something you'd like to try and the "models" your seeing in the porn films are really enjoying it, So naturally as you spend ages looking at this type of porn, you program your body or sexual responses into only getting turned on by watching this type of porn.

You then find yourself in a real relationship and if your reallly, really lucky you can slowly work into the conversation that you would like to experiment and try out this type of sex,
So your partner agrees.

So in your head, because of all the films you've watched you have preconceptions about how everything is gonna "pan out", BUT because its a REAL person your dealing with, and things never go according to plan, You might find that....

It hurts for either one or both of you,
Its messy and disgusting and not like it "appears" in the films,
Either she or yourself doesn't enjoy it as much as the "models" in the film seemed to be enjoying it.

It all boils down to preconceptions you have from having to view porn as the main release for your sexual frustrations.

The way I see it, the OP has "preconceptions" of what he wanted to do and how he saw the act panning out.

But because he has the feelings of a real person to contend with, What he wanted to happen with this girl didn't happen like it happens in the porn he's been viewing, and thus he has been "put off" and now sex to him doesn't seem all that good with a real person and his porn that he's been "getting off" to, seems so much easier and better.

/ Just my 2 cents from an ex-porn addict and married man.

**LarpBulaBus** · 11-12-2008, 09:31 PM

Hehehe, the general consensus seems to be that he is a perverted freak. I guess I'll ask him what he is into, and get back to you. [rofl]

I didnt have the impression of him being a pervert though.

I wouldn't call him a perverted freak, but it definitely seems like he's addicted to porn.

**Uplillacype** · 11-12-2008, 10:40 PM

I wouldn't call him a perverted freak, but it definitely seems like he's addicted to porn.

Yeah I guess so. No animals or anything freaky, but just addicted to good old pron.

**cestsennY** · 11-13-2008, 02:06 AM

C'mon, I know you all "supplement too"...........hehe

**arindiruppyr** · 11-13-2008, 02:46 AM

Guess he needs to teach her the things he likes..

Yeah, seconded. Mind you, some people lose touch with reality if they've not been in a relationship for a long time, or as in this case, ever.

**Arr34ston** · 11-13-2008, 02:59 AM

Yeah, seconded. Mind you, some people lose touch with reality if they've not been in a relationship for a long time, or as in this case, ever.

Especially if like this guy the only sex he has had is in a "virtual reality" situation.

10-12-2008, 08:54 PM	#1
Uplillacype Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 492 Senior Member	How is that possible? My gf's brother is a 30 year old fat ass, a loner and has been "lonely" (single) for a long time, actually for a couple of years in a row without even a one night stand. So porn was all he had as far as these joys go. So, now he has a girlfriend, she isnt exactly a hottie, but far from ugly and her face is pretty cute. Yet he tells me that sex with her isnt any good and he rather goes back to his porn. I mean WTF? How can even the hottest porn queen on a screen be better than an actual real life girl (even if she isnt Playboy material) in your own bed? I told my gf and now she is afraid of him becoming a freak. Gee... some people... Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-12-2008, 09:01 PM	#2
irrascaft Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 412 Senior Member	I think there's a psychological thing, that porn offers the most perverse and extreme forms of eroticism and some people get addicted to that. After a while they may find normal sex to be un-exciting. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-12-2008, 09:02 PM	#3
sDePrx59 Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 442 Senior Member	My gf's brother is a 30 year old fat ass, a loner and has been "lonely" (single) for a long time, actually for a couple of years in a row without even a one night stand. So porn was all he had as far as these joys go. So, now he has a girlfriend, she isnt exactly a hottie, but far from ugly and her face is pretty cute. Yet he tells me that sex with her isnt any good and he rather goes back to his porn. I mean WTF? How can even the hottest porn queen on a screen be better than an actual real life girl (even if she isnt Playboy material) in your own bed? I told my gf and now she is afraid of him becoming a freak. Gee... some people... LOL that is absolutely cracking! WOW Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-12-2008, 09:08 PM	#4
Obsententicab Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 383 Senior Member	Double post - my bad. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-12-2008, 09:08 PM	#5
Obsententicab Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 383 Senior Member	The closest way for her to match the sensations he's getting from his movies, would probably involves buying a pet dog or farmyard creature of some sort. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-13-2008, 12:11 AM	#6
cestsennY Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 390 Senior Member	soemtimes porn is just easier......lol Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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arcalmanard Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 391 Senior Member	Convince her to dress up like a Night Elf. I bet that'll change things. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-13-2008, 03:12 AM	#8
Civilrecordzz Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 556 Senior Member	My gf's brother is a 30 year old fat ass, a loner and has been "lonely" (single) for a long time, actually for a couple of years in a row without even a one night stand. So porn was all he had as far as these joys go. So, now he has a girlfriend, she isnt exactly a hottie, but far from ugly and her face is pretty cute. Yet he tells me that sex with her isnt any good and he rather goes back to his porn. I mean WTF? How can even the hottest porn queen on a screen be better than an actual real life girl (even if she isnt Playboy material) in your own bed? I told my gf and now she is afraid of him becoming a freak. Gee... some people... Guess he needs to teach her the things he likes.. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-13-2008, 03:25 AM	#9
suiviouse Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 442 Senior Member	You need to find out what porn he likes, maybe its man on man stuff Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-13-2008, 04:22 AM	#10
ssupermegatone Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 514 Senior Member	You need to find out what porn he likes, maybe its man on man stuff or perhaps woman on horse. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-13-2008, 04:47 AM	#11
dr-eavealer Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 603 Senior Member	Guess he needs to teach her the things he likes.. Precisely. TBH, we all know what works for us (through experimentation, of course), and its different for each man. If a woman doesn't understand how to pleasure her man to his liking, he's not going to find satisfaction in it as much as he would by doing it himself. Couples have to work at sex to make sure that they are both getting out of it what they want to get out of it, otherwise, it's not going to work out. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-12-2008, 11:57 AM	#12
LarpBulaBus Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 510 Senior Member	Precisely. TBH, we all know what works for us (through experimentation, of course), and its different for each man. If a woman doesn't understand how to pleasure her man to his liking, he's not going to find satisfaction in it as much as he would by doing it himself. Couples have to work at sex to make sure that they are both getting out of it what they want to get out of it, otherwise, it's not going to work out. I highly doubt she'd enjoy doing the disgusting, perverse stuff that he's probably enjoying so often. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-12-2008, 01:16 PM	#13
Nubtoubrem Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 424 Senior Member	I think there's a psychological thing, that porn offers the most perverse and extreme forms of eroticism and some people get addicted to that. After a while they may find normal sex to be un-exciting. Exactly what I would have said but you said it so good. It's as easy that people are different. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-12-2008, 06:01 PM	#14
Uplillacype Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 492 Senior Member	Hehehe, the general consensus seems to be that he is a perverted freak. I guess I'll ask him what he is into, and get back to you. [rofl] I didnt have the impression of him being a pervert though. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-12-2008, 07:33 PM	#15
Arr34ston Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 412 Senior Member	The big problem with being single and being addicted to porn is that you can view Real life sex through "rose tinted spectacles". i.e. You have preconceptions about how you would like sex to be with your g/f or wife etc, but because your dealing with a real human being with their own feelings and wants, Your image of how you want them to be, in a sexual situation doesn't conform with how you would like to see them in some pron movie you've watched or some other sexual fantasy you've had. Its like, Imagine you spend years looking at porn involving something like "bum sex", you get it into your head that its something you'd like to try and the "models" your seeing in the porn films are really enjoying it, So naturally as you spend ages looking at this type of porn, you program your body or sexual responses into only getting turned on by watching this type of porn. You then find yourself in a real relationship and if your reallly, really lucky you can slowly work into the conversation that you would like to experiment and try out this type of sex, So your partner agrees. So in your head, because of all the films you've watched you have preconceptions about how everything is gonna "pan out", BUT because its a REAL person your dealing with, and things never go according to plan, You might find that.... It hurts for either one or both of you, Its messy and disgusting and not like it "appears" in the films, Either she or yourself doesn't enjoy it as much as the "models" in the film seemed to be enjoying it. It all boils down to preconceptions you have from having to view porn as the main release for your sexual frustrations. The way I see it, the OP has "preconceptions" of what he wanted to do and how he saw the act panning out. But because he has the feelings of a real person to contend with, What he wanted to happen with this girl didn't happen like it happens in the porn he's been viewing, and thus he has been "put off" and now sex to him doesn't seem all that good with a real person and his porn that he's been "getting off" to, seems so much easier and better. / Just my 2 cents from an ex-porn addict and married man. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-12-2008, 09:31 PM	#16
LarpBulaBus Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 510 Senior Member	Hehehe, the general consensus seems to be that he is a perverted freak. I guess I'll ask him what he is into, and get back to you. [rofl] I didnt have the impression of him being a pervert though. I wouldn't call him a perverted freak, but it definitely seems like he's addicted to porn. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-12-2008, 10:40 PM	#17
Uplillacype Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 492 Senior Member	I wouldn't call him a perverted freak, but it definitely seems like he's addicted to porn. Yeah I guess so. No animals or anything freaky, but just addicted to good old pron. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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cestsennY Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 390 Senior Member	C'mon, I know you all "supplement too"...........hehe Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-13-2008, 02:46 AM	#19
arindiruppyr Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 495 Senior Member	Guess he needs to teach her the things he likes.. Yeah, seconded. Mind you, some people lose touch with reality if they've not been in a relationship for a long time, or as in this case, ever. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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11-13-2008, 02:59 AM	#20
Arr34ston Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 412 Senior Member	Yeah, seconded. Mind you, some people lose touch with reality if they've not been in a relationship for a long time, or as in this case, ever. Especially if like this guy the only sex he has had is in a "virtual reality" situation. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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