[infelconi]

MO - You're starting to scare me a bit too. Would you really say that to someone?

Depends on the situation, I would say it nicely the first time or two. There were a couple of times during league this year that I told people to be quiet in a blunt manner.

[UrUROFlS]

If I'm near someone who is playing a shot on another hole, I will usually stop and wait for them to play. But most people do not like the idea of having an audience, so 95% of the time, they'll see me do that and say something like, "That's OK, just keep goin'" and I give them a nod and move away quickly.

As far as the overall picture goes, there are lots of people on a golf course and not all of them are aware of their surroundings, or care about such things as courtesy, just as I'd encounter anywhere else in the world. From time to time, I get annoyed by the noise that others make, but over the years I've learned to anticipate such things and I try to "see it coming" whenever I can and either speed up or slow down a bit so that our audio paths don't cross.

As far as respect is concerned, you get what you give. "Demanding" respect is a dicey situation because most of the things that people do on a golf course are not meant to be disrespectful and I doubt that most even realize that what they do or say affects someone else at all. So, the idea of getting in someone's grill about such things is something that needs to be addressed on a situational basis and only if it's excessive. For me to actually drive or walk to a tee or green or another fairway to confront someone over such things would have to be the result of one helluva distracting thing.

Besides, when I'm on a golf course, I get so into what I'm doing that most of the time I wouldn't notice a missile attack anyway, so something like one guy yelling to another usually falls on deaf ears. Not to mention the fact that if I'm obsessing over what other people are doing then that means I'm not concentrating on what I'm doing and when it comes to golf, that's never a good thing and it usually means I'm losing my focus.



-JP

Respect can come many different ways. Losing focus due to noise is one thing but when a grown man screams like a 3 year old that is different. I usually let stuff slide but like I said I tensed up so bad my ball flew 2 miles into the woods. My hole was ruined and the guy was going to know about it. He realized his mistake and apologized for being an idiot. However, like I said before if he wouldn't have shown respect like I did for approaching him then he wouldn't like me anymore. It's pretty simple like you said, you get what you give and I gave him my full attention. And I bet you will never hear him yelling on a golf course again for no reason.

[UrUROFlS]

Let me also mention what I have told Diane before. The shock factor of situations like this for most people is I'm a VERY amiable person. Almost to a fault. I try and be nice to every person I meet but there are times where I lose myself in the moment. I am not a person who tries to bully people, I'm not a smart ass or mean to people and for the most part I'm one of the nicest people you will ever meet. So when something you do gets my attention to the point of riding over there and reminding you there are others out here, people usually listen. I think it's important to know that many people at our country club have run off other members over the years for the way they treat people. It is no secret and something that I myself will change. The older generation of the club has created a cliq and they talk about people like dogs. I have personally stopped a few of those converations and actually overheard 3 guys talking about me one day. So needless to say my reputation is spreading around there that though I'm a nice guy who doesnt drink I will not tolerate disrespectful behavior by anyone. That goes for the club president down to the newest member.

[PheliarearY]

So much abrupt golf course noise isn't even from other players--there's traffic, people living adjacent to the course, construction, you name it. A noise that wrecks your swing is a bad break, but in my experience, it's as likely to come from off the course as on it.

[xtc2d6u8]

So much abrupt golf course noise isn't even from other players--there's traffic, people living adjacent to the course, construction, you name it. A noise that wrecks your swing is a bad break, but in my experience, it's as likely to come from off the course as on it.

Ive personally always thought that golfers are a little oversensative about noise. I can think of plenty of other sports that require just as much concentraction and the players make it happen while thousands of people are yelling, screaming and trying to distract them.

[UrUROFlS]

Ive personally always thought that golfers are a little oversensative about noise. I can think of plenty of other sports that require just as much concentraction and the players make it happen while thousands of people are yelling, screaming and trying to distract them.

I play with a guy who literally talks during his swing. I mean he doesnt shut up so there is some truth to that but the problem with golf is tension is bad and noise leads to tension. The room for error in golf is so small the slightest bit of tension can destroy a golf swing. I guess that's why pro golfers have people thrown off the course for clicking a camera or talking during their swing. Yelling is about the only thing that causes me to tense up.

[xtc2d6u8]

I play with a guy who literally talks during his swing. I mean he doesnt shut up so there is some truth to that but the problem with golf is tension is bad and noise leads to tension. The room for error in golf is so small the slightest bit of tension can destroy a golf swing. I guess that's why pro golfers have people thrown off the course for clicking a camera or talking during their swing. Yelling is about the only thing that causes me to tense up.

I dont see how shooting a free throw in basketball, kicking a field goal in football or batting in baseball is any different than a golf swing.
It doesnt bother me a bit if people make noise during my golf swing.

[joOEMcheapSOFTWARE]

... Needless to say I was furious and rode over to give him a piece of my mind...
..I don't put up with B.S. from people...
..They will treat me with respect or they won't like seeing me anymore... I
.. I could beat the snot out of them and just keep right on playing...

Oddly, I suspect that I'd enjoy playing with you and in your group. I really don't like it when people yell on the course when I'm hitting, and don't like playing with people that move around in my field of view when I'm swinging. My concentration is a fleeting thing, and I like to be able to focus.

But I have to ask...are you seriously saying you'd get in a fight on a golf course because someone is an idiot who doesn't know how to behave?

[sbrthrds]

I dont see how shooting a free throw in basketball, kicking a field goal in football or batting in baseball is any different than a golf swing.
It doesnt bother me a bit if people make noise during my golf swing.

All three of those examples have one big difference from golf, although it's not always the same thing.

In baseball, you're hitting a moving target, so what you do is reactive.
The free throw and the field goal are both directly using your body to do something to a ball. In golf, you're doing something to a club to do something to a ball, which means that any "mistakes" in what you do are massively amplified.

Well, that and it's what people are used to. If everyone always played in a noisy environment and it was the "done thing", then people wouldn't mind it. For me, it's really a change in the pitch that gets me. If there's noise, I don't mind that, so long as it's steady, so for example I have no problem playing if there's a drone from a road somewhere nearby. It's sudden noise (like someone shouting) that gets me.

[eCw56dzY]

I embarassed myself this summer. I drained a freakishly tough put for eagle (steep downhill, lucky the hole got in the way) and let out a piercing "YES!!" just in time to catch the guy on the next tee box nearly screw himself into the ground. I ran over and apologized and insisted he re-tee. Thankfully he accepted my apology.