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**JosephNF** · 10-31-2011, 06:45 AM

Brother i thought giving up your friends to practice your deen was a prerequisite here ? lol ;p

Remember Hazrat Abdullah Bin Rawah Ansari (rah) and Hazrat Abu-darda (ra) were close friends and their
friendship continued even after hazrat Abdullah conversion to islam.
While his friend remained non muslim for a while until after some dawah sessions Hazrat Abdullah (ra)
showed up at his house while hazrat abu darda was out and smashed his in house idol to bits ... seeing
his beloved idol shattered on the floor Hazrat Abu darah (ra) accepted islam as well.
So it all depends on where do you stand in your deen ?

1) I would highly recommend to keep your self properly 'grounded' by being in constant contact with shuyookh and on top of
that in this day and age a bit of involvement with jamaat never hurts anybody. Once you make proper pious mutaqi friends
at the above mentioned avenues ( trust me it will only take a couple of meetings ) you are ready to phase them out of your life.

2) while you are doing 1) make sure you are in contact with your friends on your terms at places where you are in control at your house, at a basket ball court and try to keep it civil etc.

The benefit of all this would be not only your break up would be soft but intact you might inspire a few of your friends to make a
similar transition like yours. At least they won't think that somehow you flipped from their friend to a monster.

So yeah this way you would be abandoning some or most of them ( or they would abandon you when you start adopting more sunnah

).
All depends on your ikhlas and do not forget to pray for their hidayah.

10-31-2011, 06:45 AM	#4
JosephNF Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 441 Senior Member	Brother i thought giving up your friends to practice your deen was a prerequisite here ? lol ;p Remember Hazrat Abdullah Bin Rawah Ansari (rah) and Hazrat Abu-darda (ra) were close friends and their friendship continued even after hazrat Abdullah conversion to islam. While his friend remained non muslim for a while until after some dawah sessions Hazrat Abdullah (ra) showed up at his house while hazrat abu darda was out and smashed his in house idol to bits ... seeing his beloved idol shattered on the floor Hazrat Abu darah (ra) accepted islam as well. So it all depends on where do you stand in your deen ? 1) I would highly recommend to keep your self properly 'grounded' by being in constant contact with shuyookh and on top of that in this day and age a bit of involvement with jamaat never hurts anybody. Once you make proper pious mutaqi friends at the above mentioned avenues ( trust me it will only take a couple of meetings ) you are ready to phase them out of your life. 2) while you are doing 1) make sure you are in contact with your friends on your terms at places where you are in control at your house, at a basket ball court and try to keep it civil etc. The benefit of all this would be not only your break up would be soft but intact you might inspire a few of your friends to make a similar transition like yours. At least they won't think that somehow you flipped from their friend to a monster. So yeah this way you would be abandoning some or most of them ( or they would abandon you when you start adopting more sunnah ). All depends on your ikhlas and do not forget to pray for their hidayah.
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