[goatteatromiag]

First of all I wanna say that the girl I like is the most confusing girl in the world. I know most of u know how confusing they could be and know how I feel. Okay heres the story: Me and this girl were together once in High School, and we she ended it. We both ended up going to the same college and i had her for a few classes. She's always really flirty w/ me and stuff and we talk on the phone for hours. Okay fast forward to 2 months ago, we both started talking again and talked on the phone for hours. Then suddenly the calls stopped and everytime I tried to get in touch w/ her she said she was busy. So I just naturally assumed she wasn't interested so I moved on. Well last week I get a call from her and I hadnt talked to her in 2 months. She told me if i wanted to go to the movies w/ her, so i went. Then 3 days after that we went to the movies again. Now in my head i'm wondering if were going out as friends, or if she wants something. So i never mad an actual move or anything like that. So here I am confused and wondering wat the hell is going on. I even sent her an email asking her wats up between us. But she just ignored and just replied saying that she can't wait to see another movie w/ me. And she also wants me to fix her computer...So I have no idea if I should ask her again, or should just go along w/ it.[help]

[JOR4qxYH]

And she also wants me to fix her computer...

^Surefire sign that she wants teh sex. Next time you see her, grab her bewb.

[Lidawka]

Confront her about it.
It'll probably scare her off, but I'd consider it a good thing.

[amotoustict]

Paragraphing!!

Anywho, paragraphing aside, ask her? Doesn't hurt to ask. Actually no I lie, it does hurt....a little.

[goatteatromiag]

Paragraphing!!

Anywho, paragraphing aside, ask her? Doesn't hurt to ask. Actually no I lie, it does hurt....a little.

Sorry lol, well thats the thing, I've tried asking her...she just ignores it...

[jarsbars]

You are her tool... She will ignore and try her womanese talk if you confront her.

Realize she won't have a thing for you anymore EVER. She sees you as friend and you see her as something else you want. She knows that too, man. Don't let her like that.

I am not saying stop talking at all, but find another girl, and don't treat your ex as your best friend IF YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS.

[goatteatromiag]

You are her tool... She will ignore and try her womanese talk if you confront her.

Realize she won't have a thing for you anymore EVER. She sees you as friend and you see her as something else you want. She knows that too, man. Don't let her like that.

I am not saying stop talking at all, but find another girl, and don't treat your ex as your best friend IF YOU STILL HAVE FEELINGS.

Yup u have a point, I think i should just ignore her for now on.

[jarsbars]

Do so or one day you will find out about her doing another guy and that will hurt even more.

In fact, she will use you as emotional tampon how her new BF or some screw-buddy doesn't treat her right so she can cry on your shoulder and then suck some of his...

[ZesePreodaNed]

Here's where a girl's opinion comes to the rescue. [thumbup]

First of all, i would never (and i mean NEVER) talk to a guy on the phone for two hours if i didn't like him. Of course, that could just be me, because i hate the phone. But...the fact that she asked you to go to the movies with her says something. If it was just a movie that she really wanted to see with a friend, she could have just asked one of her girlfriends to go. However, the fact that she's being so off and on says that she's not quite sure what she wants. Maybe one day she thinks she really wants to see where it goes, and the next she changes her mind. Who knows? Is she talking to or dating anyone else that you know of? As much as i hate to say it..she could be talking more to you when she's mad at him, and talking to you less when things are going ok. If there's no one else, then it sounds like she's just not ready to make any commitments. Look at it this way....if she talks to you for hours, goes out with you to the movies...she's obviously investing a lot of her time on you. There's obviously something she likes about you. It's very respectful that you were straight-forward and asked her what's going on. A lot of people wouldn't have the balls to do that. At this point though, i would drop it and see what happens. Don't waste your time worrying about it, and definitely don't miss out on other things because of her. If you want to date other people, do it...actually, i'd suggest it. You'll either end up finding someone who knows what they want, or this other girl will see that she needs to make up her mind.

Best of luck!

[amotoustict]

And now it begins....

[enurihent]

I know how you feel....I've been there myself before.
Some has been mentioned, but here's my 2 cents....

She likes you...Otherwise she wouldn't have talked to you for hours or done things with you.
If you 2 haven't done anything intimate/sexual since back in High School, then it's a clear sign that she sees you as a friend.
And when she's busy and you don't hear from her in weeks, it's probably because she needs har time away from you, because she can feel that you want more than she does.

So if you still have feeling for her, it would be better to confront her in person and not by e-mail, sms etc., and tell her you would like to be more than friends.
If she only wants to be friends with you, then will most likely loose her after telling her that. If not, then you will probably loose her later because your feeling for her will grow, and it'll get too much for her.
And when she finds another boyfriend, then you'll experience pain much worse than any pain you ever felt.

From the info you have given, it could also be that she has feelings for you but that she's just confused on what to do and feel. A typical reaction is to do things with you (movies, long talks etc.) to see you, and then ignore you for some time just to call you up agian and ask you to the movies. And that could also be the reason for ignoring your question about it.

But there's no right answer, as no people are the same.....But for all you do, don't pressure her for answers, or to be with you, or anything.....because that will scare her of no matter if she has feeling for you or not.


Here's what I think you should do (assuming you have feelings for her)...

Confront her in person (NOT e-mail, sms etc.) and tell her you have feelings for her and that her signals are unclear.
Watch her reaction - that tells more than a 1000 words (if you read it right).

• If she tells you she's madely in love with you and just didn't act on it because she was afraid you didn't feel the same....then everything is good. But I doubt that.

• If she tells you she don't have feelings for you, and you can't stop having feelings for her. Then you're better of telling her you can't just be friends with her, and that she needs to leave you alone (and you have to do the same). You really need to this or the pain will be much worse later on.
  

• If she tells you that she's confused and don't know what she's feeling for you, or if she 'sneaks' around the question again. Then you should be her friend as you have been, but this time you have to play 'hard to get'. If she really have feelings for you, then she will feel that she could loose you, and that might force her to look inside herself and find out what she feels for you.

If she is confused or anything like that....then you don't want to be with her or pressure her too much, as that will drive her away from you.


Good luck and remember.....Love will cure any pain...even if it caused the pain in the first place.
And the love of friends are priceless in your darkest hours.


BTW......

AmberNicole.......Welcome to the forums

[ImmimiFruff]

mr wolf is right[thumbup] follow his steps;p

[Britiobby]

buttsecks

[nryFBa9i]

buttsecks

Indeed.

If a chick asks you to fix a computer it's always buttsecks.

Just make sure you pick out the chunky bits before you start.

[mr.videomen]

Ummm...yea...even to a girl that's kinda confusing. I mean...I've been played by a boy like that...you know the whole said he liked hanging out with me even went to the point of making out with me then never heard from him for a while and one day all out of the blue was like hey tiff what's up lets chill...UM NO.

Don't let her play you dude. If she's gonna be like that...you have better things to do. And there are better girls out there...(I know sounds crazy but there are)

[slarceSelia]

Gah, I came into this thread hoping for a massacre. Instead there's actual advice. So dissappointing.[no]

Anyhoo, carry on!

[xanax-buy-online.com]

Just show off your $200 air jordans, and you will be set.

[UBJ3kvP1]

Just confront her in person, talk to her, and ask her what's going on. It's better to find out than to wonder and be confused. Get your answers from her now!!!! If it's good news, then go with it. If it's bad news, at least you know and you can cope with it. Whatever you do, don't act like a wuss and start crying.

[plantBanceper]

Man, maybe she just wants to use you for sex. Ask her she wants to fool around, just so you can be sure

[enurihent]

mr wolf is right[thumbup] follow his steps;p

That comes from 24 years of experience in that area

Just confront her in person, talk to her, and ask her what's going on. It's better to find out than to wonder and be confused. Get your answers from her now!!!! If it's good news, then go with it. If it's bad news, at least you know and you can cope with it. Whatever you do, don't act like a wuss and start crying.

Yeah, it's better to get the bad news than to not know at all......BUT...If she's confused and don't know exactly how she feels, then pressure her to give an answer will for sure give the bad news.......as I wrote ealier.