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I thought I was one of the lucky ones, I really did. Granted, what my husband did I was able to forgive him for, the affair was only emotional, but I still thought I was one of the lucky ones.

I know personally of many marriages, especially in my family, where cheating occurred.

Life sucks.

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I can't believe that. If I do it would mean my children may as well give up hope of having a faithful spouse. I won't throw in the towel yet. I believe that their are more of us out there than we know about.

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My CH had been single for about 2 years before he met me. He was previously meeting women through the personal ads in paper (pre-internet dating sites), and matchmaking agencies. I'm pretty sure he slept with alot of the women he met. He unfortunately couldnt be monogamous because he was used to a certain lifestyle of casual sex with anyone. He loses interest in women once he has had sex with them, he always had a low libido with me right from the start. This should have been a red flag to me, along with him constantly looking at other women when out on a date with me.

To this day he doesnt miss an opportunity to flirt, even in my presence with a bloody waitress at sizzler last week, his eyes lit up and he said "yes I can pay you cash" in a real flirtatious way. See, he just cant help himself, a true womanizer. Mentioned it to him and of course he denies it, says I am just looking for an argument and now we can never go out to dinner again. He does it unconsciously. I've looked at other men when speaking to a waitress or whatever and they just act casual, not flirty, just treat her as another person, my CH sees it as a chance to prove something to them, that he is witty, funny, or whatever other reason he has to do it in his screwed up mind. He will never change and I know it.

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[Goksiodiffeli]

Marriage is a fraud, and the only ones who benefit from them are lawyers. We are pressured into them because society says that's what we are supposed to do. But should we? Why do we need peices of paper that say "I love this person?"

What started as a religious institution has become a government sanctioned nightmare. I've done it twice now. Both times failed miserably. Don't think there's going to be a third.

[Garry Hovard]

Lance01- Because some of us want to find a spouse. There is nothing wrong with that. You have your lifestyle, I have mine and the others on here have theirs. And if I want to call the person that I'm looking for to marry 'the one' then I can.

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I think cheating and divorce is just commonplace. No one respects a wedding ring. They don't care, they still will hit on a married person or date a married person. I think media has just made us numb to affairs. I think the media also doesn't show how tough divorce is. Movies, tv, make it look so easy.

I think there is "a one". Maybe you haven't found him/her yet. I don't think a good way of preventing cheating is not to never get married (bf/gf cheat too and it can hurt just as much) but communication. If you can have really open communication with honesty and no judgement and intimacy on an emotional level, you have half the battle won.

I thought I communicated well with my husband. Turns out I wasn't. It's not an excuse for his behavior but if I really had listened (not just heard) to him and questioned his silence/moods, I may have found out sooner or prevented him from being vulnerable to a predator. He still made the choice, but maybe I could have caught on sooner.

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Alot of guys that think they are good at sex are not, they are the selfish personalities, they put themselves in the "good" category.
Alot of guys not out there pounding every chick they can (like the selfish ones) are actually quite good at sex they dont need to prove themselves.
This world is basically self destructing with out morals and ethics, both spiritually and phisically. Its the quality not the quantitiy and over 30 is not old that is just when men start getting "good"